“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets!” – C. Joy Bell C
Are you are a man who is in a beautiful relationship and is clueless about how to take it forward? Have you not been able to figure out why the love of your life left you for no fault of yours?
If you are stuck in either of these situations, this article may change your perspective completely.
When a person leaves, it is natural to feel that there was no love to begin with. But ask yourself why you were in the relationship if you never felt loved? The reason why your girl walked out on you is perhaps your oblivious attitude itself.
Women Want To Feel Wanted
When was the last time you expressed how much you love your partner? Did you do anything remotely sweet or thoughtful for her in the past few months? Have you taken her opinions into account while making plans that involve her? Did you compliment her on her efforts and success?
If you can’t reply in the affirmative for these questions then brace yourself for the outcome. For she will definitely leave one day. If you do not make your woman feel desired, she will think you have lost interest. Her insecurities will feed out of your lack of concern. Please put in the minimal effort that a relationship requires for surviving.
She Needs Your Presence
If you think buying her all the items in her wish list will get you love then you are absolutely wrong. If all she needed were material comforts, she could have gotten them herself. Sure, a thoughtful gift from time to time doesn’t harm. But don’t believe for a minute that you can compensate your absence with things. She is a human being who is in love with you, and asks for nothing but your affection.
If your wife is always burdened with attending your kid’s parent-teacher meetings, football matches, taking them to the doctor and also looking after their schoolwork whereas you are “busy” gaming or being lazy around, she will break one day.
Similarly, if you never make it to the play your girlfriend wanted to watch, or attend her sister’s birthday party or never stay back when she really needs you, you are putting her off. Your girl knows that no one in this world is too “busy” for things that matter the most to them. The signals you are giving are enough to drive her away.
Women Crave For Meaningful Conversations
“Sometimes you have to disconnect to stay connected. Remember the old days when you had eye contact during a conversation? When everyone wasn’t looking down at a device in their hands? We’ve become so focused on that tiny screen that we forget the big picture, the people right in front of us.” – Regina Brett
When was the last time you heard her not to merely reply but to listen? Silence taken too far can snap all future conversations. Resentments start piling up and a woman feels invisible.
If all you talk about are children, bills, the grocery list and what’s for dinner, you are silently killing your relationship. Ask your partner how her day was; hear out the dream she had last night. A little empathy doesn’t hurt.
A woman will love you with all her heart but when she sees her place slip, she’ll take her cue and leave. She invests hundred percent in the relationship and expects a little if not the same effort in return.
Understanding is an underrated pleasure. Conversation is the key to a sound relationship and, of course, actions speak louder than words. If you don’t try hard enough, she is bound to lose faith in you.
If you have committed the mistakes listed here, you know now why you are sitting alone, nursing a broken heart. But, it is never too late! Mend your treatment of the lovely ladies in your life and pave your path to a beautiful relationship in the future!
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