Love is that eternal puzzle that all of us are trying to figure out. And with time, it only seems to be getting even more complicated.
We don’t know what makes specific individuals fall in love with each other enough to spend a lifetime with them.
However, there are still a few general truths which are applicable to all.
“A man falls in love when he feels like he could be a super hero with you in his life. When he feels accepted, appreciated and understood, and knows he can make you happy…he will be yours. Oh…and throw in that he thinks you’re hot!” says Relationship Coach Bobbi Palmer.
Here we have talked about the 6 things that make people, or rather men in particular, fall in love. Of course, the most important reason of all is that the woman makes him happy and values him. But here are the rest of them:
1. He likes everything he sees
“The answer doesn’t sound sexy, but a man falls in love when his feelings for a woman reach a critical mass. He spends time with her and he sees that she is kind, loving, affectionate, loyal, fun, sexy, and of a positive spirit in quantities that reach a certain weight. One day he thinks, ‘Wow, I love this woman.’ He may not know why, but his mind/heart have taken a look at her in an in-depth way.” – says CEO of eHarmony Grant Langston.
Many people assume that men like particular things in a woman. That’s not exactly true; it’s not like a man goes around looking for a woman with certain kind of hair to fall in love with. The realization that they have fallen in love comes usually spontaneously and after they’ve spent considerable amount of time with her. And when it does, it is because of everything that she is, not some fragmented parts of her personality or her body. This doesn’t mean that all those little things don’t make a difference; after all, they are what make the woman who she is. But none of them are powerful enough on their own to sway the decision.
2. He is confident that he will make her happy
You’d think that it’d be the other way around, that a man will fall in love with a woman who makes him happy. Well this is slightly the same, however, in a little roundabout way. You see, bonding is very important for people to make each other happy. And so if a man sees that he is capable of making a particular woman happy, he knows that it will be reciprocated as well.
3. When he sees how open she is towards love
The popular media might tell you to play slightly out of reach as it will make you more alluring to men. But the truth is, men like women who are open to fall in love, and embrace it. For this, they naturally need to have an understanding of what are the qualities they are looking for in a man, as well as their own characteristics.
“The things that makes a man fall in love really boil down to is a deep emotional connection. When you feel comfortable with being open and vulnerable with someone, you’re likely falling in love. Human beings as a whole need to feel connected to someone in order to let the walls down around them. We can only really feel anything, including love, when the walls are down,” says dating coach James Preece.
The women who embrace the idea of love, and are ready to put their guards down so as to be loved, are greatly admired by men all around.
When a woman is being difficult, and playing hard to get, a man might easily get tired of her.
No matter what the media tells you, we are humans and as humans we seek company and intimacy. When we feel this need being reflected in the other person too, we are naturally attracted towards them.
4. How does she make him feel
This one isn’t really that hard to grasp. All of us want to be around people who make us feel happy and accepted. We all seek that warmth and love that only a few people are able to give. Men fall in love with a woman who makes him feel emotionally and mentally validated, as well as loved.
5. She is ready to face anything and everything
A woman who is always willing to venture into the unknown, make do when the resources are limited, and not be perturbed by anything that life throws her way, is bound to make any man fall head over heels in love with her.
“Finding a person who fits into his life without huge disruptions is important. Men may like to ogle high-maintenance women, but they’re not the women they marry. A willingness to say, ‘Yes, I’ll try that’—whether it’s trying exotic food he likes, sports he plays, places he wants to go—makes a man fall hard,” says editor Cathleya Schroeckenstein.
It is hard to fall in love with a woman who is rigid and uncompromising.
However, the ones who have the zest for life and adventure make for great partners.
6. She helps him feel purposeful
Because she herself has a passion for her life and a goal towards which she is working. Not only does it help him in getting his act together, but also her enthusiasm and passion keeps him going whenever he feels like giving up. Together they can share a vision for the future and help each other keep up. When a man feels that he has that in life, there is nothing that he wouldn’t do for this woman.
Many people assume that men are not capable of deep emotions and expectations. That is wrong. As these points might have made clear, men feel as intensely as woman.