Relationships are no cakewalk; it is a meandering mountain path with big boulders of problems that have to be overcome with team effort. Love would be easy if it was enough but sadly it isn’t. It sure is the foundation but you need trust, faith, understanding, and effort to build the beautiful castle.
More often than not, people try to mask their true selves in order to be more “likable” which creates major problems. Often after falling head over heels in love with someone, you realize that you never knew the real person! Imagine the pain and the horror of being so invested and yet being unable to fathom their souls.
Women are usually not all about extremes. They strive all through their life for a middle ground of sorts where they can be comfortable and bloom into their full potential.
When they love, they do so with their whole heart but sometimes they need to let go because their expectations remain unfulfilled, even after they’ve put in everything. It’s obvious that when they leave, men think there was no love but it is quite the contrary – they know if they stay, it’ll become toxic.
Here are few reasons why they put an end to relationships:
Here’s the thing: women aren’t dainty damsels in distress and don’t need a knight in a shining armor to protect them. What women really want is companionship through thick and thin. She wants you to hold her hand when she needs support or give her a warm hug if she’s sad. Basically she just wants you to be present by her side.
2. Nothing New
No! Women don’t think being fickle is fun but they do need something interesting brewing. They don’t think stability should lead to stasis; instead, they believe in remolding relationships to discover all the facets of their personalities. Men stop giving effort or shy away from trying different things, which can be a huge turn off. Some men even bottle up their emotions and don’t expose their vulnerabilities, which makes them less humane. Women do not want such people in their lives.
3. Support is missing
Life is not always a bed of roses and can sometimes knock you down without warning. What you then need is a patient person to be there for you who lulls the bad thoughts and pulls you out of the mess. If not all of this, at least staying there without complaining about it would suffice. If you don’t have her back during the toughest phases, do you deserve her in her dazzling light?
Women desire intimacy and passion. If you always rush things and make it feel like a routine chore instead of a special moment, things will get out of hands. She wants you to recognize her worth and treat her accordingly. Who wants to feel like a disposable tissue? No one!
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5. Lack of Attention
So imagine this: you have just watched an amazing movie that has left you inspired and wanting for more so you rush to share that feeling with your partner, only that she’s listening and scribbling, and writing a mail, and cooking and surfing the net – won’t you feel unimportant? Women want you to pay attention when they talk and not get lost in your dream world. Little things matter and make the bigger picture.
6. Poles Apart
Of course you don’t need reasons to love someone or a manual about their likes and dislikes – what you need is the wish to know them. Discovering hidden traits can be a pleasant surprise or a horrifying shock! You may totally love the person with all his flaws after the honeymoon period or the first six months of the relationship. Sometimes you may realize after a while that you aren’t “clicking” with the person, that you both are poles apart. Yes opposites attract, but they don’t form a strong bond. When a woman realizes that their worldview is very different from their partner, they walk away because everyone has the right to be loved for who they are.
“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved.”
C. JoyBell C.
It is important to walk away and not water a dead plant; above all, it is mandatory to love yourself.