“At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.” – Jane D. Hull
Parenting is no easy task. It requires patience and perseverance to raise well adjusted kids who can be successful in their lives. There is no rule book as such but these techniques have had amazing results according to scientists:
1. Ask Them for Specifics
According to C+R Research, American children are least interested in working really hard in order to be immensely successful. In a survey comprising of 400 teenagers, most kids opted for careers that are less likely to get them security, such as musicians, athletes, or video game designers. The markets for healthcare, construction, computer science are the ruling sectors of the economy. As parents, you should guide your children to be interested in better career prospects.
2. Eat together
A family that eats together stays together. Harvard University conducted a research where it was seen that kids who have dinner with their parents have lower levels of substance abuse, teen pregnancy, obesity and depression later in life. Their grades improve and they have good communication skills and develop self confidence.
3. Working Parents
Harvard University research shows that working parents are usually more focused and usually inculcate more values in their children as opposed to parents who work from home. This is because the parents who spend more time with their children tend to shelter them.
4. Reduced Usage Of Electronics
The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that kids younger than 18 months should not even touch electronic devices. Try to not use the TV, Phone, iPad, or any entertainment device in certain places like the dinner table, the car and the bedrooms.
5. Teach Them How To Work
Julie Lythcott-Haims, ex-dean of freshman at Stanford University, in her famous TED Talk explains how kids who do chores and run errands have a greater understanding of a professional environment. They are more likely to know how to react to situations and prioritize their commitments.
6. Reading To The Kids
According to New York University School of Medicine the kids who read more have developed greater language, literacy and early reading skills in four years time. The British Cohort Study under Dr. Alice Sullivan conducted a research with 17,000 people of the United Kingdom. “We compared children from the same social backgrounds who achieved similar tested abilities at ages five and 10, and discovered that those who frequently read books at age 10 and more than once a week when they were 16 had higher test results than those who read less,” she told The Guardian. Books are the ultimate source of knowledge and these kids grow up to be curious individuals who are more likely to learn things.
7. Say No To Instant gratification
In the Marshmallow Experiment of 1972, a marshmallow was placed in front of a kid with the promise of getting a second marshmallow only if he or she would wait for 15 minutes before gulping down the first one. The following study proved that the kids who resisted the trap were better in studies, were less likely to get involved in substance abuse and had better social skills. They were also less obese and could deal with stressful situations. According to James Clear, a famous author and speaker who studies the habit patterns of successful people, the “Top performers in every field: athletes, musicians, CEOs, artists–are all more consistent than their peers. They show up and deliver day after day while everyone else gets bogged down with the urgencies of daily life and fights a constant battle between procrastination and motivation.”
8. Failure Is The Greatest Teacher
Dr. Stephanie O’Leary, a leading psychologist and the author of Parenting in the Real World: The Rules Have Changed remarks that the kids learn a lot from failures. They can cope with adverse situations, become more determined and can channelize their energy in doing worthwhile things. The more you guard your child, the less mature he or she will be.
According to a study conducted by the Student and Youth Travel Association (SYTA), the kids who travel more have better prospects in life. They are more likely to explore places, more tolerant of other cultures and ethnicity, wish to try new cuisines, have greater independence, self-esteem, and self confidence, are more curious and can adapt more easily.
As a parent, it is your responsibility to create a better life for your children. Follow these steps and you will get positive results.