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My Boyfriend’s Mom Kept Calling Me The Wrong Name, So I Had To Throw A “Yelling” And “Crying-Filled” Thanksgiving

Published on March 11, 2024

A woman couldn’t figure out why her boyfriend was so upset with her and why their family Thanksgiving had gone so badly. To see if she was at fault, she went to Reddit.

A 30-year-old lady was seeing a man who, just a year prior to their start of dating, had split up with his high school sweetheart. Even though he had moved on from that relationship, his family members did not feel the same way.

The mother of the woman’s boyfriend was devastated by the breakup with his childhood sweetheart. Since she had grown up with them, the older woman believed that the boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend was a member of their family.

The couple decided it was time to end their romance and broke up amicably as they grew apart with age. That didn’t stop the woman’s boyfriend’s mother from venting her frustrations on her, though.

How Was the Mother of the Woman’s Boyfriend Treating Her?

Knowing that it could take some time for his family to adjust to his dating someone else, the woman entered the relationship. Things will get better, she reasoned, as his mother needed to get to know her.

But that wasn’t the situation. During the first year of their relationship, the lady said her boyfriend’s mother would refer to her by his former name. She revealed:

“…until [my lover] encouraged her to be kind after being enraged once. She shrugged it off, calling it merely a habit.

Even after the woman’s boyfriend’s mother stopped referring to her by her ex-girlfriend’s name, she continued to mispronounce her name. The woman would get called Jenny instead of Janet by her, and so forth.

The woman corrected the mother of her lover the first few times this occurred. She quit correcting the older woman when she called her the wrong name, though, after realizing that it appeared like she loved inflicting pain on her.

In addition to everything the woman had to go through with her boyfriend’s mother, she was bewildered and angry when she found herself in a tough situation during a significant holiday.

What Happened At Thanksgiving?

The woman was to her boyfriend’s sister’s house for a cookout a few weeks prior to Thanksgiving. She was in the kitchen with her husband, one of her boyfriend’s two sisters, and his mother.

While they stood there, the sister of the woman’s boyfriend told her brother how much his girlfriend’s cuisine had impressed his brother-in-law. While the woman’s boyfriend’s mother was listening, she made the ironic suggestion that she prepare the Thanksgiving turkey. But once more, she referred to the woman incorrectly—calling her Janet rather than Jenny.

Although the woman’s boyfriend’s sisters were giggling at their mother’s idea, she said:

“That’s a great idea!”

The woman was prepared to take decisive action to ensure that her boyfriend’s mother could no longer refer to her incorrectly. Thanksgiving a few weeks later, things reached a breaking point at her boyfriend’s mother’s place.

Everyone was taken aback when the woman and her boyfriend showed up with the customary wine and dessert and revealed she hadn’t brought the turkey that had been discussed weeks prior to Thanksgiving.

The woman claimed that because her boyfriend’s mother had mentioned the other woman’s name weeks before when talking about the day, she assumed Janet was bringing the turkey. She acknowledged:

“There was yelling, crying, and then we got kicked out.”

The woman went on to say that she had not heard from her boyfriend since that evening and that she thought their relationship might be ended. However, she wanted to know if internet users thought she was wrong for what she had done.

She quickly discovered that, far from believing she was mistaken, many people hailed her as a hero for the way she had handled the matter, telling her that the mother of her boyfriend had done far worse to her than calling her by the wrong name.

Some stated the older woman had tried in vain and that her actions were the only significant enough to convince her boyfriend’s mother of her mistakes. Others believed she needed to have approached the woman.

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inAmItheAsshole

One woman encountered a problem with her mother-in-law due to the food she brought, but another woman encountered a problem because she failed to bring a dish. The woman had to make a challenging choice as a result. This is the entire narrative.

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