You wake up every morning and before you even drink a glass of water, you find yourself reaching out for the phone – the world of emails, comments, likes and news bombards your brain cells and before you know it, you are in a crabby mood.
The celebrity weddings or the met gala extravaganza, the hatred spreading like wildfire over pettiest of things, the overflowing envy over the “haves”, the latest technology – does everything make you feel like a “nobody” who essentially has “nothing”?
How often does this consumerist mass hallucination leaves you feeling drained and broken? Don’t worry! It is a shared emotion in our times where the need to portray our lives as “happening” and “lit” makes us filter out the basic necessities of living.
You try to excel in all the roles you have created for yourself – a friend, a parent, an employee, a blogger, a singer, a painter, and in the ensuing flux, feel completely empty or overcome with sheer panic. When the epiphany finally hits you, you desperately try to clutch the log of reality and look for the emergency exit.
The sad news is: there is no quick fix, the good one being: you can change your life whenever you want and it is never too late.
Here are the simple mantras which will not make you feel overworked or stressed:
1. Simplicity Is The Solution
“The simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them.”
― Paulo Coelho
You must figure out what you truly want and not what the society wants from you. This will make your life a lot easier. The moment you embark on a journey in the wrong direction, you alienate yourself from all the positive vibes of the universe and find only friction. The fear of failure makes you take the easy step. Remember, in order to get what you want, you have to strive hard. Follow your dreams and the rest will eventually fall in place. The happiness that you will achieve cannot be compared to anything else.
2. Draw The Line Between Want And Need
“Earth provides enough to satisfy every man’s needs, but not every man’s greed.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
The consumerist propaganda will have you believe that you “need” the latest Iphone, that your mornings can’t start without Starbucks, that you “need” a Tiffany ring to get married. Well, these are nothing but brainwashing for benefits of the brands. The truth is that your current phone will suffice, homemade coffee rocks and any token of love is great! The hype on social media tricks you into believing you “need” a lot of things, when in reality you just “want” them. Mark the difference and incorporate it in your daily life. The things that are essential for your existence, that add meaning to your life and which do not just offer instant gratification, are the ones you need.
3. Minimalist Living
Less is more. You do not need to measure your success by throwing a grand party to show off, you just need a couple of genuine friends to hang out with. Don’t chase standards set by the society, look for little things that make you immensely happy.
4. Thoughts Are Valuable
How many times have you lost yourself in the maze of your thoughts? Well, it is human nature to oscillate between “to be or not to be” and the solution is to live in the moment. Procrastination is the sworn enemy of happiness. You need to clear your mind in order to think rationally and attract the positive energy of the universe. You are what you think and do, so be careful with your thoughts.
5. No Validation
We often stray from things that we really want, thinking how it will upset others. Remember how you wanted to be an artist, until the shackles of the society made you a materialistic person without a soul? Or remember when you thought you’ll become a writer but your parents forced you to study science? No one but you can decide your destiny. The constant need for approval may even make you do things that are in vogue, even when you don’t feel like it.
6. Chase Your Dreams
Don’t chase money. If you do what you love with all your heart, success will follow. Don’t wait for things that make you happy. Don’t think you have ample time, because you don’t.
Cleaning up the physical environment is important as it facilitates clear thinking. However, decluttering your mental space is absolutely necessary for healthy and happy living. Do away with the past baggage, fears, prejudices, anger, envy – anything and everything that makes you bitter. Spend some time alone and reflect upon your thoughts. Do what relaxes you – meditation, music or cooking, that doesn’t matter. Don’t lose touch with your soul.