A lot of us have certain qualities that they look for in a partner. Not everyone goes by them because when we first meet a person, we are so infatuated by them, that for a moment we forget about the whole list we had in our head.
It’s easy to list everything that you dislike in a person, but what about the qualities that they possess?
Not everyone cares about this list of qualities because some people just know that they are the one. But it never hurts to know the qualities that your partner should possess, if you want to be with them for the long run.
The following list might help you figure out whether someone is worth fighting for or being left as a temporary fling. If your partner has the following qualities in them, you can be sure that they are a keeper!
1. Supportive of your passions, goals and decisions
This person is your biggest fan! They believe in you and are very supportive in anything that you do or want to do. They encourage you to chase your goals and dreams and you know that you can always count on them in case you need their help.
2. Increases the value of your life
Being with this person makes you want to be better and do better. They aspire you to be a better person and do even more of what you already do. Not in a competitive way; they just make you want to be an even better version of yourself.
3. They act silly around you
‘Forever’ is a long way to go. Your partner won’t mind being his true self around you and act silly and be fun loving with you. Not everyone should be serious or feel restrained. If they act silly around you, that means they feel comfortable around you and that’s a sign that they are ready for Forever.
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4. Shows how much they love you
Regardless if you’re not someone who needs validation or too much affection, your partner should show how much they cherish you and appreciate you, without coming off as being clingy.
5. They would always be willing to compromise
Even if you two have different opinions, they should always be willing to compromise and find a middle ground. They will accept that you might have different way of seeing things or different wants from them, but they are open minded enough to meet you in the middle.
6. Respectful to your family and treats them well
It is hard to overlook if your partner doesn’t care for your family or shows them respect. This is very important since your family is the biggest part of you.
Also, if your partner doesn’t care for meeting them, or spending time with them, then you know what to do.
7. Values and acknowledges your opinions
Your partner doesn’t have to agree with you at all times, but they need to be respectful and value your opinions, no matter how different they might be from theirs.
8. They love themselves as much as they love you
Somebody who is their own person, without always relying upon your companionship or asking you to focus on them only, is often the best partner. They need to be comfortable with themselves and confident and secure enough in your absence.
Even if every other aspect of your relationship might be going great, it is hard for that relationship to keep going strong if one of you doesn’t trust the other one. Problems will only continue to grow bigger if someone is second doubting their partner.
10. Makes you happy and positive instead of draining your energy
Your partner should be simply elevating your spirit instead of emotionally and mentally drain your energy.
11. Is able to exist outside of your relationship
It is important for your partner to accept the fact that you have a life outside of just your relationship and he needs to be able to enjoy the same himself without constantly needing you around.
12. Doesn’t hold grudges
Everyone makes mistakes or gets in arguments every once in a while. It is inevitable. But your partner shouldn’t hold any grudges or bring up things from the past to start arguments with you.
13. They simply bring out the best in you
They shouldn’t focus or bring up your bad qualities; instead, they should tell you about the good ones you have and encourage you to simply want to do better and be a better version of yourself, in a very positive way.
14. Loves you, flaws and all
Perfections and in-perfections; your partner should accept you and love you just the way you are.
If your partner wrongs you, they should be able to put their ego aside and own up and apologize. They should never try to put the blame on you.
16. They open themselves up to you
They should feel comfortable enough to allow themselves to be vulnerable around you. To be able to talk to you about their fears and issues, trusting you enough that they can always confide in you.
17. Keeps you in check, without dictating
If you’re acting out of line, they should be able to respectively tell you where you went wrong. But don’t hold that against you in the future.
18. Allows you to be you
They shouldn’t make you feel, or tell you, that you should suppress any part of who you are. You should feel free to be yourself and be comfortable with who you are around them.
You should always be able to rely on them, when needed. They should be here for you and provide emotional support.
20. It’s easy being with them
Every couple has arguments and occasional fights, but with this person, it’s mostly just so easy and nice being with them. They are your best friend, you lover and your family. When it’s the right person, everything goes easy and smooth.