We all learn things the hard way…
We are still learning that our energy is on a strict budget; we cannot go around and spending it on unnecessary things. When we sort our life priorities, we should keep in mind that if something doesn’t get you peace, it is not worth your attention.
Here are the other few things you need to add to your priority list in order to keep misery away from you.
1. Some things are trash and you aren’t, so move on
You can’t wrap trash in a golden paper and call it a gift. Yes, that is the reality. Sometimes, we see the good in people just because we desperately want them to be that way. The truth is, we got to leave some people and situation in their own mess and walk ahead with our lives. You can’t keep wasting your time and energy in situations that aren’t in your control. That is like pushing a wall.
2. Be yourself and be unapologetic about it
Don’t give anyone the chance to bring you down. Constructive criticism is indeed a very helpful thing, but there has to be a limit. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that things that you believe in are foolish or that you aren’t good enough. Choose yourself over anyone else every time, and be unapologetic about it. But most importantly, believe in yourself because if you won’t then who will?
3. When you are stressed out take a step back and breathe
Sometimes you have to take a deep breath and say f*** this shit. People often forget the importance of personal space and boundaries. In such situations, you’ve got to stand up for yourself and draw a line for them to not cross. Drawing an uncrossable line for people doesn’t mean you don’t value them or love them, it just means that you’re trying to protect your privacy and that is completely fine. Don’t feel guilty about it. After all, it’s your life and you choose to decide how much allowance a person gets to interfere with your life.
4. Stop crying over spilled milk
This has a lot to do with point number one. You cannot dwell on your past and expect to be happy. Accept things as they are and move on. You’re just a human and as hard as you try to, you cannot have control over everything. Learn to take things in their raw form, appreciate your life for every good that you have, and look for strength to help you move on and away from things that aren’t good for you.
5. Make yourself the center of your universe
The grass will always look greener on the other side. The truth is, it’s going to be green where you water it. The only way you can attain peace is when you don’t interfere with others business and keep your focus only on yourself. Of course, you can’t be bothering others and expect them to leave you alone with your stuff. Do your thing. Remember, you’re too smart to let petty things catch your attention. If it isn’t helping you become a better person or isn’t helping you learn something new, it’s not worth the hype. Another day, another drama. You can’t waste your time on all of them.
6. Do only what you really want to do
One of the most important rules in life is to stand up only for what you truly believe in. An age-old proverb is “Practice what you preach”. Your words and actions should match. You’ll often find people on social media posting something and doing the complete opposite of it in real life. Don’t be a dead duck. Make your own rules and STICK TO THEM UNDER ANY CONDITION. Don’t let situations change what you preach. Being adaptable is fine but changing your morals for situations isn’t. Involve yourself in only those things which bring you true happiness. Be it profession or relationship. Don’t force yourself into doing something or keeping a person in your life. It takes away the fun of it.
7. Don’t let anyone ruin your peace
Don’t let people get the better of you. The world is full of people who think that the only way up is to pull others down. Don’t do that and don’t let anyone do that to you either. Make your peace your first priority and cut off anyone who you think has the potential to disturb it.
8. Know your worth
In life, you’ll often meet people who will make you feel like you deserve to feel miserable. Do not believe them!! You are not what others think of you. The only person you really need to answer to is the one you see in the mirror. Make sure you aren’t the reason why someone is hurting. That’s it. If you can look at yourself without feeling guilty then you’re already better than most people in the world. Be true to yourself, always. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you so that when they walk into your life, they know that you’re aren’t going to settle down for anything less than amazing.
Try to practice these few rules in your life and I assure you, you’ll be killing your game. Be unf*ckwithable and tell them clearly that you ain’t here to take crap!