Have you known someone who was so intimidating when you first saw them that you didn’t have the guts to go up to them and talk? Or someone who just looked bitchy and you were afraid they will humiliate you if you approach them? But when you got to know them, they turned out to be the nicest people? Well, they are someone with a strong, influencing personality!
People who have strong personalities are often misjudged as dominant, aggressive, rude, and arrogant. They might put off a lot of people when they first meet them but, once you get to know them, you realize just how wrong their first impression was.
The truth is, people who are independent, the ones with strong personalities, are natural charmers! They do not live to impress anyone or be better than anyone. It’s simply that they know where to draw boundaries and they aren’t willing to let anyone walk all over them. They don’t seek validation from others either. Talk about self-sufficient people! These people do not let anyone abuse or use them.
Their arrogance is the manifestation of their inner self-confidence and it is just one of the indicators of a strong personality. Read through the following signs of a strong personality and notice if you have any of them.
1. You are very vigilant – you are picky about people you allow to enter your life
Being strong means you do not rely on others to define you. You recognize the kind of people who have to bring others down just to make themselves feel better. People with strong personality have high self-esteem. They have an amazing connection with themselves which allows them to identify exactly who they are and what they want – even from their social exchanges. As a person with a strong personality, you won’t settle for anything less than what you know you deserve.
2. Trivial conversations aren’t meant for you
It’s not like you can’t make small talk, it’s just that you realize there is no point spending your energy on something which isn’t going to have a lasting effect. People with strong personalities look for meaningful, deep conversations where they can actually connect with the other person and genuinely get to know them. Small talks do not allow any of it and they are flat and boring – not the kind a strong personality prefers.
3. Insensitivity, idiocy and willful ignorance irritates you
Since strong people think a lot and are well-informed, they find it agonizing when people make instant judgments about things they hardly understand. Of course, when you have exercised your brain for good, you wouldn’t put up with anything less sophisticated. You use your knowledge to enlighten others and influence them to think for themselves.
4. You have zero tolerance towards excuses
It really puts you off when someone whines or complains about what they can or cannot do. You don’t put up with excuses at all because you are action oriented. You know it’s a waste of time to dwell on the problem and hence you work on the solution. It’s a constant struggle of becoming a better version of yourself. It’s a realization that, even though there might be many reasons why you can’t, there will always be enough reasons why you can.
5. You are a good listener
There is one way of listening where the words fall on your eardrum. Then there is another way of listening where you really interpret what the other is saying and make sense of it. It’s active listening – listening to the meaning behind words. It is what these strong people are good at – listening to you with an open mind and heart.
6. You do not yearn for frivolous attention
You are self-sufficient and you don’t need anyone’s validation. Thus, you do not seek to get attention from anyone. Even though it might seem like you are asking for attention, you are not. It’s just your personality, your emotional and mental stability which attracts people towards you – the attention comes naturally, you do not necessarily have to work for it.
7. You do not have any irrational fears
It is okay to be afraid. Its human nature to fear things but, for you, your fears are rooted in reason. They aren’t baseless. Plus, you face them with dignity instead of allowing them to have a hold of you.
8. You turn your insecurities into opportunities
Being a person with a strong personality, you know your insecurities are an opportunity to evolve, to become better and to emerge sunnier. You embrace your imperfections and don’t allow them to rule you. What other’s think of you is none of your business. All you know is how to grow better. Everyone is insecure – true, but strong people do not let it control their life.
Others might find you as a stubborn person or someone who is hard to love. It’s just that they can’t stand how strong you are. They find you intimidating because you challenge their usual, mundane self. You challenge them to be better.
At the end of the day, you are all you need and you know how to be yourself amidst of all these judgments. That’s why you are strong!
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