Have you been often accused of being intimidating? People might judge you for what you are without knowing about you or your life. Your personality today, is a result of the experiences you have gone through in the past. Because of that your attitude towards life has become strong and tough. Others may not like the way you are but that should not bother you. You should not be sorry for who you are.
Marked by tension, your life has seen many ups and downs in your career and relationships. This has transformed you to an independent and stronger person. Therefore you do not easily come off as soft to people anymore.
Sometimes you are misunderstood as rude and mean for the way you behave and react around others. What most people fail to see is your soft side behind this garb of the tough one. People who come across as intimidating are actually kind in nature and have a big heart.
Some common traits that are visible in intimidating personalities are the following:
1. You are brutally honest and straightforward
“Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!” – Dr. Seuss
People do not speak their minds because they are afraid of being judged. You value words. You know very well that if one does not be vocal about one’s needs, they will remain incomplete. Superficiality yields nothing. To express is your right and you are not afraid to speak the truth at all times. Meaningful connections are made if you are honest.
2. Your happiness does not depend on other people
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” – Buddha
Each time you put the key to your happiness in someone else’s hand, they will drop it. You do not get into toxic relationships that make you feel drained in the end, but find happiness within yourself.
3. You are not the judgmental kind
“The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence.” ― Jiddu Krishnamurti
You are comfortable in your own skin and this is reason enough to not judge others and feel good in the process. How someone looks, talks or dresses up does not reveal their entire personality. It is easy to assume and jump to wrong conclusions. You know it is best to focus on yourself and to upgrade yourself instead of wasting time judging others.
4. You love to learn new things from different people
“I am a rare species, not a stereotype.” ― Ivan E. Coyote
Once you start celebrating your differences and you spend time with unique people who know different things and learn from them, you are truly living. Society tries to chain down people who have a rare charm or always stand out in a crowd because it fears rebellion. If everyone succumbs to the set rule of things, there is absolutely no difference between us and robots. Constantly expanding the horizon of your mind in the company of talented and extraordinary individuals creates zeal in you; zeal to not be “normal”. As Van Gogh said, “Normality is a paved road: It’s comfortable to walk but no flowers grow on it.” Be unique.
5. Small talks irritate you
“We’d rather talk about something meaningful than fill the air with chatter just to hear ourselves make noise.” ― Jenn Granneman
How many times have you seen people involuntarily reply “good” whenever someone asks them how they are doing? It doesn’t matter if they are sad, tired or angry, the words just come to their lips and lack any meaning. These kinds of boring routine questions are bound to irk you as someone who dares to have a real personality. You want to know what a person is actually going through and what he wishes to share. You also want to learn things that are unusual and talk about things outside of the box.
6. Action is of primary importance
With the rise of the internet, people can be whoever they want and say anything in the virtual space without following it in reality. Many people love to say the right things without really backing it up with appropriate action. You keep a safe distance from such superficial people using your analytical skills. Action speaks louder than words, any day.