Love takes many forms. Romantic love is just one of them, but to be honest, it is by far the most interesting. Right from the chase to the final stage where looks don’t even matter anymore, it is a journey of a lifetime. And it is sweeter if you are with someone who really loves you for what you are. And no matter what films say, grand gestures are never everything in love.
Love exists in the smallest, most intimate of gestures. Society has always required of men to be intimidating and “masculine”. The word is double-edged as it also requires men to shove off all their feelings down the carpet and be more aggressive.
So how do you know if he’s trained not to tell you? Well look out for these 7 signs:
1. He makes small sacrifices for you
This is something that you should look out for. Men are very selfish creatures, to be honest. If you see your boyfriend makes small sacrifices for you, it means that he is fighting off his better instincts for you. That’s not something he is comfortable at. He is putting himself in a false position for your betterment.
2. When you talk, he listens
Again, men are trained to be aggressive, even in conversations. You will rarely find them taking time to sit quiet and listen to what the other person has to say. This is pretty common and I’m sure you have seen it as well. But if the person you are with is taking the time to listen to you, he is making a strong gesture that translates to love and nothing else.
3. He shows you his weaker sides
If a man shows you the hole in his armor, he is literally giving you the keys to his heart. This is because he knows you can just hurt him by using his vulnerabilities against him. But he trusts and loves you enough to tell you anyway. He knows the bond you share is far stronger than any ego.
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4. He loves the way you look, always
Even on the days when you haven’t showered and are hungover, with dark circles under your eyes. He still finds you absolutely mesmerizing and irresistible. Big sign: Him kissing you when you least expect it. He doesn’t care for looks when it comes to you, or better still, he finds you beautiful all the time, because he knows you are his person, the one he wants to spend his life with. He not only loves you when you are dolled up and looking amazing, but he loves you even when you haven’t tried at all.
5. He celebrates your achievement
You can see it in his eyes that he is honored to be a part of your life. He makes it a point to feel happy for your achievements and makes it a point to celebrate them. He is ever hopeful for you and has high ambitions for you. And it’s not just that; he makes it a point to tell you how proud he is of you, while helping you out in whatever way he can.
6. He is there when you need him
Whenever you are in a fix, he is there to patch you out. He will help you in any way possible and never say no, or take a step back when his turn comes. Besides, he will just be there, like a constant beacon of hope for you. After a tough day out, he is going to be your bed rock.
7. He treats your circle with respect
Simple: He is getting used to them. This is because he has to spent a large amount of time with them after you two settle down with a family of your own. He tries to get to know them and doesn’t judge them or refuses to spend time around them.