Off The Record
12 Things You Do Unconsciously That Make You Less Attractive
Body language is a legitimate way to understanding what someone means and is feeling at a particular time. The things you do with your arms, neck, waist, etc., convey a particular message and, sometimes, you may end up sending the wrong message unintentionally.
Do not worry, I am here to help you with just that! Following is a list of bodily gestures that you should avoid!
1. Hands on your wrist behind your waist
This particular gesture gives off the vibe that you are angry and ill-disposed. It makes you look unapproachable and stiff. Not the best way to go about in a social gathering.
2. Crossed ankles
When you cross your ankles during a conversation, it basically conveys the message that you do not really know what you are talking about. This makes the people around you automatically shift their attention to someone else who seems more confident. Another mistake some of us make when we have crossed ankles is putting our hands in our pockets. It makes us look nervous and unworthy of other people’s undivided attention.
3. Clenched fists
Clenched fists are a sign of you not wanting to be where you are. It gives the message that you would rather be somewhere else than where you are at that moment. It makes you look uninterested, almost as if you are using your clenched fists as a barrier.
4. Raised clenched hands
As I mentioned above, your fists seem like a barrier and when you raise them higher, it is a higher barrier.
This posture does not only harm your image, but it harms your health as well. It looks as if you are terribly depressed, dissatisfied, and completely done with everything in your life and the things around you. Sometimes we are genuinely depressed but this posture will never really help you in finding a lot of friends. If you want to make an impression, always walk with your back straight and your head held high.
6. Wry smiling
Well, to put it bluntly, it just makes you look like you have some secret evil plan or you are making fun of the people around you. People are made to think that you are cold and unfriendly.
7. Hand pointing to the person you are talking to
This is a small gesture and therefore not everyone notices it, but that does not make it any less rude. When you point your finger towards the person you are talking to, it seems like you are asking the other person to shut up.
8. Hands on your hips
Most of us are probably aware of this one. When our hands are on our hips, we look like we want to pick up a fight with everyone who wants to talk to us, and that we are really disagreeable. Needless to say, not a lot of people would want to talk to us when they see us standing this way.
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9. Thumb sticking out
This basically says that you are totally uninterested in what the other person is saying because you know better than anyone else. This intimidates people and makes them unwilling to engage in any conversation with you. Try looking as approachable as you can.
When you fists are clenched, it basically means that you are being aggressively defensive and there is a lot of conflict in the air. If you raise that clenched fist higher, whoever you are around will keep their distance from you and try to escape being punched because that is exactly what it looks like. Your fists can make or break your image so make sure you know what you are doing with them.
11. Hands on your mouth
In a conversation, when you cover your mouth with your palm, it makes the person think that you have some information that you are not sharing with them or that you are lying. It makes the person lose interest in the conversation rapidly.
12. Pointing and shaking your finger at someone
Well, I do not think this one needs more explanation. People do not like to be talked to condescendingly.
Basically, a more open gesture increases likability immensely. Do what you gotta do – you will be okay. Positivity and openness will make everything better.