Self love is a beautiful thing but sometimes, when a person crosses a limit, it turns into selfishness and even narcissism.
Narcissism, by psychological definition, is the self-centredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects, either in very young babies or as a feature of mental disorder.
A narcissist is someone who can never see beyond themselves and everyone and everything fades away to irrelevance for them. Building up any kind of relation, be it friendship or companionship, with such people is a tough task because they don’t quite believe in giving and completely deny the fact that they too can be wrong. And if they at all do accept it, it’s going to break their ego to apologize.
It is quite an unlucky thing to fall in love with a narcissistic person because you might cry in-front of them, but if they don’t want to care, they just won’t.
After reading this, do you have a face in front of your eyes? Do you think your partner has these traits? To find out if you’re dealing with a narcissist, continue reading!
Some people have a sadistic nature. They hurt people without any reason. They don’t even spare animals for that matter. They are inconsiderate towards everyone but themselves. When choosing a partner, you need to make sure you’re with someone who isn’t only good to you but good to others around them.
2. Proactive manipulation
They always have a way of getting things done. They don’t necessarily act rowdy all the time but rather choose the method of proactive manipulation in a way that you can’t really call them out for it. After a while, you seem to be the crazy one but they will never speak about how they drove you to that point.
They either want to be surrounded by people who only praise them or they rather prefer staying alone. They like to be surrounded by people who shower them with good words and appreciate them for the little things. They appreciate people being fake to them as long as it makes them feel good about themselves.
4. Sensitive to criticism
They cannot tolerate being corrected. They will argue even if they clearly know they are wrong. For them it’s either the highway or the sky way. They can never accept the fact that they too are humans and can make mistakes too. It has to be their word against everyone else’s. Even though they will be the first one to criticize someone, they are not good in accepting the same, no matter how constructive it is in nature.
They will never let you find out their vulnerabilities. They will do anything to hide their weaknesses. They are always scared that once their secret is out, people will judge them just like they judge everyone else. And they cannot tolerate that. They are doubtful about everything, which is why their mind is never completely at peace.
6. No empathy
This takes us back to point number 1. They are inconsiderate beings and nobody’s pain means anything to them. You can cry a river for them but if they don’t want to care, they just won’t. Similarly, if you do everything in the world for them, they will still have the audacity to tell you that they didn’t ask you to do it for them.
7. Cannot take responsibility
They never agree that it’s their fault and will either avoid the topic or scream or cry. But they will never have a responsible response to their mistakes. They are never ready to work on their flaws because to them, they are perfect.
8. Constant acceptance
We all need love and attention from someone we love but a narcissist will look for validation. They cannot stay without getting attention and not only from you but from everyone around them. They are praise hungry and want their shoulders to be patted for doing every other thing. A narcissist will lose their interest on you if you don’t constantly validate them.
9. They are the authority of everything but their own actions
They constantly make you feel like they are above you in every aspect of life. At a certain point, they even make you feel like they are doing you a favor by loving you. And honestly, it’s hurtful. They always make it look like they are better than you in every sphere and that sort of breaks your self confidence.
As humans, we all are jealous of someone. But a narcissist’s jealously crosses a limit to a point where it becomes unhealthy. They can be jealous of anyone and everyone as long as the other person has something that they don’t have. They won’t even think twice before building jealousy for someone who is really close to them.
They are often unsuitable partners and are not mature enough to handle and work on a relationship. According to them, the world revolves around them. They will never break their ego for anyone, even if it means ending the relationship.
They have a weird charm and they for sure know how to use it to turn tables and get away even after doing awful things.
Top 3 Books about Narcissits you Must Read:
- Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
- Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
- Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
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