Like we all know, love can change everything in our lives. Falling in love is one of the most beautiful, incomparable feelings that one experiences in their life and honestly, it is hard to keep one’s prudence intact when they are so much in love.
Love truly does make the world go round, and in more ways than one. It is what makes life worthwhile. That being said, it might sometimes happen that one falls in love with the wrong person. Not wrong in the sense that it is someone you cannot be with, but in the sense that they are not good for your emotional and mental health.
It’s not your fault
It can be truly scarring, an experience like this, of having fallen in love with someone who is toxic and did not love you in the truest sense. When something like this does happen, it is easy to fall into a spiral of blaming your own self and indulging in a lot of self-hate.
Don’t fall prey to gaslighting
That is just how us humans are wired, but this article is here to remind you that your partner’s toxicity is in no way your fault. You did not make them toxic; it is not possible, no matter how much they make it seem like everything was your fault. People who are negative and vicious are very skilled at gaslighting, which means that they make other people feel like it was their fault that they acted in a certain way or that they are simply imagining things.
One is especially shaken when they are or were in love with this toxicity that they did not seem to recognize, because of how much they love the person. A toxic person makes everything in the relationship about themselves only and they refuse to see anything else that their partner might need. They do it in such a way that their partner is left to feel guilty for asking for things they need or for sharing what’s on their mind. A love like this also gets difficult to walk out of because your partner convinces you that if you left to find someone who would treat you better, it makes you selfish and amounts to abandoning your present partner. They love playing the victim card.
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Dare to walk out
This article right here has been written to remind you that it is okay to leave someone who makes you feel bad about yourself and questions everything that you do. You did not and would not do any wrong if you left the person who kept taking advantage of your love and kept making you feel like you were not good enough for them, thus constantly pressuring you to be someone completely different. Yes, there are but a few things in life that hurt as much as heartbreak but trust me, it is not ultimate – it does not define you, it is not what you will feel forever.
When you do walk out of a toxic relationship, take a moment to just be proud of yourself for having accomplished something so huge and keeping your feelings and emotions above everyone else’s because you owe it to yourself.
It’s a learning opportunity
You owe it to yourself to be happy, to be content at every path of your life. I know it hurts to realize that someone you loved with all your heart was only with you because you were an easy target, but think of it as a learning experience. You now know what you do not want in a relationship and what to avoid the next time you take a plunge into the dating scene.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “heartily know when the half Gods go, the Gods arrive”, which means that every time you get your heart broken, you are one step closer to finding the one that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you are in a toxic relationship and have not been able to walk out of it, consider this a sign and do the needful.
Always remember that you will have your friends and family to support you, no matter what. It might seem like the end of the world but you will find your footing again and you will fall in love again!
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