Crystal Wood is reported to have said: “ten minutes with a genuine friend is better than years spent with anyone less.”
Shedding light on this quote, we needn’t emphasize just how indispensable true friendship is. Not everyone we call our friend is actually our friend, most us are just acquaintances. Among our small inner circle, we always have that one person who is super straightforward. They are brutally honest, stating everything just as it is. We call them blunt, dictionary meaning “uncompromisingly forthright.” They wouldn’t shy away from telling you the truth, no matter how heart-breaking.
Then, why is that we always have one blunt friend? Well, psychology explains why such people are the best kind of friends one can have. Here’s why:
1. They paint the real picture
There are no sugar-coated talks with a blunt friend. They will tell you everything just as it is. William B. Bradshaw says they believe in telling “it as it is so people can deal with the very root of the situation.”
Their tough love is supposed to make you face the real situation. They aren’t outright cruel but they genuinely care for you – care for you enough to hurt you by telling the truth themselves rather than by seeing you get hurt by the situation. When you seek a blunt friend’s advice, you know they will always be honest. They will tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to.
2. You will always be certain about their friendship
If someone is blunt, they don’t have to be pretentious. More importantly, they have no reason to pretend to like you or be your friend. They will be very honest about their feelings about you. If they don’t like you, they simply don’t like you and wouldn’t even want to make you believe otherwise. Therefore, if they have decided to be your friend, know that it is as genuine as it gets and your friendship with them might turn into a lasting one.
3. They push you to be better
No one is perfect. We all have some flaws and some of these flaws are quite adaptable. We can improve ourselves by working on our shortcomings. But how do we know what to improve? That’s what a blunt friend will tell us! Since friends are usually hesitant in telling you your weaknesses, because they think they would either hurt your feelings or cause a rift in the friendship, a blunt friend cares more about you being a better person. They will confront you with your inadequacies in an attempt to make you a better version of yourself.
Chalene Johnson, lifestyle and business expert has an opinion about blunt friends: “When you surround yourself with friends like this, your life will completely change. You become more positive, driven, and focused on your priorities.”
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4. Apologies don’t scare them
As human beings, we find it hard to admit when we are wrong – we don’t like that feeling. When we can’t acknowledge that we make mistakes, how would we able to apologize for them, right? Well, that’s not the case with blunt people. If they can tell others when they are wrong, they can easily admit being wrong themselves – it is probably one of the best attitudes blunt people carry! They won’t only be able to admit their mistake but be courageous enough to apologize for it as well – a friendship with a blunt person is free from the arguments others experience in this regard.
5. They won’t let you stay in harm’s way
Since they genuinely want to be your friend, they will not let any harm come your way. Where they will safeguard themselves from any wrongdoing, they will be there to keep you safe as well. Your blunt friend will probably be one of the first people to show up when you need help. They make the best of friends because they aren’t afraid to stand up for their loved ones. A blunt friend will always have your back, keeping you from getting hurt.
It is due to all these reasons that a blunt friend will be your best friend! Yes, we need compassion and appreciation from our circle but we also need someone who will be honest with us even when we can’t be honest to ourselves. That’s when a blunt friend will step up. We all need someone we can rely on no matter what and someone who will help us become a better person.