Self-Improvement
8 Things Smart People Do To Deal With Toxic People
Are you smart? Do you know what your limitations are? Do you know what to do when you are stuck in a quicksand of negativity and toxicity around you, and you have nowhere else to go? All you need is some quick-thinking, and a good head on your shoulders.
Toxicity is all around us. We have to go through toxic people everyday. Some are present in our personal space, and some we meet everyday. They put a damper on our mood, and we are unable to do anything about that. But not all of us. Some of us are smart enough to know what to do.
1. Aware, and Alert
A smart person is always aware of his surroundings and knows how to deal with toxicity. The woman/man would take care to avoid meeting any negative person, and always be careful of who they deal with, for they would never bring their self-esteem into question. If push comes to shove, they would rather just brush off the negativity.
2. “I will Forgive, but not Forget”
A smart person will forgive someone, but not forget what happened. As Don Williams sang it, a smart person would never completely forgive someone, let alone forgetting it. “Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me”. A smart person is once bitten, twice shy.
3. Made of Sterner stuff
A smart man is not just smart; he is tough too. He knows that nothing could ever shake him. No amount of negativity can shaken his resolve, and no amount of toxicity can dampen his spirits. He has confident in his abilities to withstand the harshest of storms, and stands like an oak tree, hardly moving.
4. Margins are Important to Them
They are quick to draw boundaries, preventing all the negativity from entering their space. They know where to draw the line when it comes to toxic people. They have a very closely knit group of people, who are like-minded, and they avoid toxic people like the plague.
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5. Conserving Energy
Smart people like to implement their energy in useful ventures, instead of wasting it on moments that weren’t useful. Fighting with people, or arguing about events with negative people, isn’t at all useful to them, and they deliberately choose to avoid it.
6. No Time for Distractions
Smart people consider toxic people to be a distraction and nothing else. They wouldn’t want to deal with them if they could avoid it, for they are much involved in their own pursuit and ambition. They don’t have the time to deal with bullshit that would have no impact on their lives. Also, they don’t waste time to reason with such toxicity. They just ignore it, and move on.
7. A Veritable Support Backpack
Every smart individual has a reservoir of supporters behind them. Not just mindless fanatics, but people who matter. They tap into them, when they are succumbing to self-depreciation, and are almost losing their way in the crowd. These people are already aware that it could happen to them, so they have already taken precautions for it.
8. One Closed Door leads to Several Open Ones
Smart people are like Dexter. They always have something up their sleeve; a trick or two that would alleviate the problem they are in. It could be anything, maybe a mantra, maybe a motto, maybe a song, or maybe a routine, but that would alleviate the problem, and alleviate the darkness that is around them. They would do something, that is simple, yet marvelous, and dispel the toxic person, or the toxicity left behind. They always do.
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- Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
- As a Man Thinketh
- Have a Little Faith: A True Story
