Relationships are not easy. Getting into one is not easy either. And yet the world would make you believe that you cannot survive without a relationship. This creates an unnecessary pressure to be in a relationship and people often make mistakes for which they repent later.
No matter what everyone says and how things seem, the only time you should get into a relationship is when you are absolutely ready for it. And here are 8 signs that you are absolutely not:
1. You don’t want to be in one
Although there is no need to include this point in this list, yet there are so many people who willingly chose to ignore their own wishes. Just because you might like someone very much is no reason to start a relationship if you cannot give them proper time and attention. And it is really not a big deal to be on your own.
2. Your priorities are a little different in life right now
You are more focused on getting that promotion at work rather than your significant other. If that is the case, then don’t get into a relationship just for the sake of it. If you have your goals set ahead, be it your career or personal life, and you don’t seem to have time for another person, don’t delude yourself into thinking that you’ll be able to juggle both.
3. You haven’t learned to love yourself first
Unless you have learned to love yourself first, you cannot love anyone else. If there are aspects in your own personality with which you are not satisfied yourself, learn to work on them. Don’t think that another person will come and complete you; you have to be complete by yourself first.
4. You need to work on your communication skills
If you’ve been told by your peers that you don’t get your point across effectively, you should definitely not get into a relationship. It is not easy to handle the high emotions and feelings involved in a relationship and if your communication is weak, you are in for a fall.
5. You’re not over your ex
This is another reason that should be self explanatory and yet people don’t seem to pay heed to. When you break up with someone, take time to understand why it didn’t work. Don’t jump into a new one thinking it will help you heal your wounds. You are the only one who can heal yourself. If you think you are going in over your head with the same things over and over again, learn your lessons and move on.
6. You’re not entirely convinced that the other person is the right one
Just because you like the company of someone, that isn’t a reason enough to get in a relationship with them. Take your time. Don’t rush into anything. Most important of all, don’t make any decisions when you are overwhelmed with the joy of being with someone new. There are a lot of things you need to learn and know about yourself and the other person before you commit yourself. Haste will only lead to disappointment.
7. Someone or something else is making you feel like you want to be in a relationship
If the reason for you getting into a relationship is anything other than you wanting to be in one then do not get into one. You might be too tired of being the third wheel or maybe your family is not letting up in trying to fix dates for you, but don’t give in to this pressure. Make sure that you yourself are ready for one and that you really want to be in one.
8. You simply can’t commit yourself
No one will shame you if you are afraid of commitment. But you need to tell the other person this from the get go. Don’t be with someone when you can’t commit yourself fully. Being in a relationship with them will only cause woes for the both of you.