What Is INFJ?
According to Wikipedia, “INFJ (introversion, intuition, feeling, judging) is an initialism used in the publications of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) to refer to one of the sixteen personality types. The MBTI assessment was developed from the work of prominent psychiatrist Carl Jung in his book Psychological Types.”
INFJ children are not common and are more often than not, misunderstood. These are certain experiences and traits of this type of children have:
1. They Take Time To Trust
These kids cannot believe in absolutes and have big trust issues. They can’t distinguish between what is corporeal and what is imaginary. They don’t want a materialistic word without any profound meaning. They question the present and want to find deep philosophical truths about the world. They wonder why the sky is blue? Why the earth moves around the sun? Why is there life on earth? They are thinkers.
2. They Analyse Their Dreams
Children have an active imagination and dream a lot. While other kids don’t ponder much about their dreams as they aren’t concrete, the INFJs try to decode the dreams. They want to figure out the symbolic connotations, analyse the progress and see it as a premonition.
According to Leona Haas and Mark Hunziker, “Introverted Intuiting is the keeper of the so-called sixth sense.” In Jungian terms they are “the mystical dreamers and seers” of the universe and tend to have psychic abilities. They can feel things which most adults can’t.
3. They Are Empathetic
INFJs are highly sensitive people who feel everything deeply, be it happiness or sadness, hatred or love. They separate themselves to protect their core being from being shattered. They believe it is their responsibility to mend other people’s problems. They become invested in other people’s emotions and it overwhelms them. Their empathy allows them to reach out to others, understand them and give them helpful advice. On the other hand, it takes over their soul so that they cannot understand how they themselves feel.
4. They Are Often Distracted
INFJs don’t trust easily and resort to solitude. They always try to find layers in people’s words – do they mean what they say? Do they want something? These kids live mostly in their heads while the world around them fades. While talking to them, either you’ll see them zone out because they are thinking about something you said 5 minutes ago, or they can completely shut you off and miss out on important things that you said. They come off as rude, even though they are just good observers.
5. They Hate Being Interrupted
Since they are in a thoughtful state most of the time, if you break their attention, they’ll be mad at you. INFJs do not like interruptions because they have a short attention span and when they are focused, they don’t want to be disturbed. It takes a while for them to switch their social mood on.
6. They Are Perfectionists
You can find these young individuals racking their brains for that perfect flawless piece. Asking them to transform their ideas to reality in a simpler way will get no response. They want everything their way and will go to any extreme to get it right. Suppose they come to you for feedback, if you don’t like something they’ve done, make sure you aren’t harsh and offer simple solutions.
7. They Are Lonely
They are usually caught in their own web of thoughts and own endeavors. They pay attention to everything and spend time scrutinizing them. This is why these kids cannot spend much time communicating. They have a tough time opening up and maybe once they do, they are ridiculed for being “different”. It is not unlikely that they will find empathetic and thoughtful people with whom they can be at ease, but it takes time. They prefer staying in their shells instead of exploring possibilities.
The original photo was taken by Sean Archer