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Here’s Why It Is Completely Fine to Cut Family Members Out of Your Life
Family is the most important and valuable gift that life has given us. It is the first lesson in relationships with others. Family is really an important word. It means to feel secure, to have someone whom you can count on, with whom you can share your problems. But it also means to have respect for each other and learn to share responsibility.
What family means to me is love and someone that will always be there for you through the good times and the bad. It is about encouragement, understanding, hope, comfort, advice, values, morals, ideals, and faith. These things are all important to me because it makes me feel secure and happy inside, regardless of what is going on in my life.
This is one of the main reasons why family is important in our life. It is important to emphasize the importance of family in our everyday life.
Family is the single most important influence in a child’s life. From their first moments of life, children depend on parents and family to protect them and provide for their needs. Parents and family form a child’s first relationships. They are a child’s first teachers and act as role models in how to act and how to experience the world around them. By nurturing and teaching children during their early years, families play an important role in making sure that children are ready to learn when they enter school. Children thrive when parents are able to actively promote their positive growth and development. Every parent knows that it’s sometimes difficult to do this important work without help, support, and additional resources.
Like every coin has two sides, every family doesn’t have the same story. There are things that we cannot choose in our lives and the family that we will be born in is one of them.
Our family is our backbone but, when relations with your family become very toxic, it is okay to let them go and lead a life alone. It’s true; a toxic relationship can wreck all of your attempts at a healthy lifestyle. Many patients over the years could pinpoint their health declining when they were in a toxic, stressful relationship or environment. Marriages, family members, friendships, co-workers, and bosses can all be toxic to your well-being.
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One of the main reasons to cut off a family member is because they have become abusive. Abuse isn’t necessarily physical. It can be mental, emotional, verbal or even sexual. You do not any longer feel safe in your own house. At first, you might have thought that you are strong enough to bear it and you will endure it as you hoped that it will stop soon. But one day you wake up and realize that it was all a lie and the abuse would not stop until you do something about the whole mess that you are in.
If there is a family member who creates a negative aura around you and who is having a great impact on your health and on your mind, it is time that you cut off that family member. In a toxic relationship, family members are very whimsical. They always try and mold things in their favor just to prove that you are wrong even if it requires defaming you. But there comes a time when you cannot tolerate that person anymore. A single text, small conversation, their voice seems to trigger you and you lose your own mind.
To determine the best course of action for your toxic relationship, you first need to deal with yourself. Start consistent mindfulness meditation to bring peace into your life and grow in presence. By becoming more present and less worried about perceived future events, or the mental replaying of past events with this person, you will anchor yourself in the only place of effective change, which is right here, right now.
Since every relationship is different, these options will mean different things to everyone. But you should encourage yourself not to choose to feel miserable anymore. You are hurting your health and everyone around you by harboring that negative energy.
