The Dance Studio Owner Told Me I Couldn’t Help With My Granddaughter’s Recital Costumes Because “We Use Professionals.” Two Hours Before Curtain, The Shipped Costumes Came Apart, And She Found Out Who Made The One In Her Own Office Photo

The Lark Dance Academy holds its parent meeting every September in the big studio with the mirrors, and parents sit on the floor because there aren’t enough chairs. I am sixty-nine years old. Getting down onto a dance studio floor is one thing. Getting back up is a whole production.

My granddaughter Josie was eight that year, and she was in the Little Sugarplums, the class of six- to eight-year-olds who would do a number called “Cotton Candy” in the spring recital. My son Gideon and his wife Lena both work Saturdays, so I’d been the one driving Josie to class since she was five. I knew all the moms. I knew which ones brought organic snacks and which ones brought Cheetos and didn’t apologize. I liked the Cheetos ones better.

The owner, Gianna Lark, stood at the front of the room with a clipboard. She was twenty-nine, maybe thirty, with a high slick ponytail and a black jacket with the studio’s name embroidered on it. She’d been a dancer in the city for a while and come home to open her own place, and she ran it like she was still in the city. Everything was very precise. The girls had to wear the same color tights. Their hair had to be in buns at exactly the back of the head.

She went through the recital schedule. Dress rehearsal dates. Ticket prices. Then she got to costumes.

“So this year we’re ordering through Glitter Line,” she said. “They’re a professional costume company out of Ohio. Costume fees are a hundred and twenty-five dollars per number and are due by October first.”

I raised my hand. It was a habit. I’d done it at every school meeting for thirty years.

“Yes?” Gianna said.

“I’d be glad to help with fittings,” I said. “Or alterations, if anything comes in wrong. I sewed professionally for a long time. I have all my equipment still.”

I meant it kindly. I want that to be clear. I was offering what I had.

Gianna smiled at me the way you’d smile at a toddler offering you a wet cracker.

“That’s so sweet,” she said. “But we use professionals. We’re trying to keep a certain standard here. I’m sure you understand.”

A mom in the front row, one of the organic snack ones, made a small sound through her nose. Not quite a laugh. Close enough.

I said, “Of course,” and put my hand down. Josie was sitting next to me on the floor, and I felt her lean against my arm, very slightly, the way kids do when they’re embarrassed for you.

Thirty-Two Years

I should tell you what I mean by sewing professionally.

I was the wardrobe supervisor at the Grand Lyric Theatre downtown for thirty-two years. Before that, I was a stitcher there for six. I’ve built costumes for over two hundred productions. Operas, ballets, a touring musical that came through every December for eleven years. I have sewn a full hoop skirt in a night. I once rebuilt a Mouse King’s head in the forty minutes between a matinee and an evening show because a stagehand dropped it off a loading dock. I trained nineteen stitchers, and four of them run costume shops in big cities now.

I retired five years ago when my knees told me to. The Lyric gave me a party and a plaque and a set of good German shears that I keep in a velvet case in my sewing room and use only for silk.

So when a young woman tells me she uses professionals, you’ll forgive me if I went home and sat in my car in the driveway for a minute before I went inside.

“Grandma,” Josie said from the back seat. “Why didn’t you tell her about the theater?”

“Because it wasn’t the time, honey.”

“When’s the time?”

I didn’t have a good answer for her. I still think about that question.

What I Kept in the Trunk

For thirty-two years I kept an emergency kit in the trunk of my car. Every wardrobe person I’ve ever known does. You never know when you’ll be called in for a disaster, and you can’t always get back to the shop.

Mine was a red tackle box. Inside: needles in every size, a spool of every basic color, hook-and-eye tape, elastic in three widths, a glue gun, fabric glue, two hundred safety pins, a seam ripper, a tape measure, a pincushion that straps to your wrist, a sharp pair of small scissors, a pack of clear nail polish for runs in tights, and a roll of double-sided fashion tape.

When I retired, I never took it out. Lena teased me about it. “What are you going to do, Helen? Emergency hem a stranger at the grocery store?”

Maybe, I said. You never know.

The Catalog

In October, Gianna left a stack of glossy catalogs on the bench in the lobby so parents could see what the girls would be wearing. I picked one up while I waited for Josie’s class to let out.

I have looked at a lot of costume catalogs in my life. I know how to read them. You skip the pictures, because the pictures are always on a grown model in perfect light with the back pinned. You go straight to the small print at the bottom of the page.

“Fabric: stretch polyester knit. Tutu: two-layer nylon tulle, attached. Trim: decorative, applied.”

Applied. That word told me everything. Applied means glued. Attached means stapled or tacked, if you’re lucky. Two-layer tulle means it would be flat by the second spin.

A hundred and twenty-five dollars, for a costume I could have built better for thirty.

Another grandmother, a woman named Ilse who brought her grandson to the boys’ hip-hop class, sat down next to me and looked over my shoulder.

“Pretty,” she said.

“In the picture,” I said.

She gave me a look. “You don’t like it?”

“I think it’ll look lovely for about four minutes,” I said.

Ilse laughed. Then Gianna walked past us on her way to the front desk and heard me, I think, because her step hitched for half a second. She didn’t stop. She didn’t look at me. But I saw the back of her neck go pink above her jacket collar.

I put the catalog back on the bench and decided I’d said enough. It wasn’t my studio. It wasn’t my show. That’s what I told myself all the way home.

Dress Rehearsal

The costumes came in late. They were supposed to arrive in March and came the week of the recital, in April. Gianna sent a long email blaming the shipping company.

Dress rehearsal was Thursday night at the high school auditorium. Parents weren’t allowed in. We dropped the girls at the side door and picked them up three hours later. Josie came out with her costume in a garment bag and a strange look on her face.

“It’s itchy,” she said in the car. “And it’s really big.”

At home I unzipped the bag. The costume was a pink leotard covered in sequins, with a short pink tulle tutu and a sparkly pink bow at the back. Size Child Medium.

It would have fit a twelve-year-old. The torso hung off her. The straps fell off her shoulders. The tutu had been gathered and stapled to the waistband instead of stitched, and three of the staples had already pulled out. The bow was hot-glued on and coming loose.

“Did the other girls’ fit?” I asked.

“Kaylin’s was too small,” Josie said. “She couldn’t zip it. Miss Gianna said we’d figure it out Saturday.”

I looked at that costume for a long time. My fingers itched. I could have fixed it in thirty minutes.

But I had been told. We use professionals. So I zipped it back in the bag and didn’t touch it.

I’ve thought about whether that was pride or respect. I think it was a little of both, and I’m not sure I’d do it differently.

Recital Day

Saturday. The show started at two. The Little Sugarplums were scheduled for the second half, number fourteen out of twenty-two, at around four o’clock.

We got there at one fifteen. Gideon, Lena, and me, in the fourth row, with a bouquet of grocery-store carnations in pink cellophane for Josie. The auditorium was packed. You could smell hairspray from the parking lot.

At one forty, my phone buzzed. It was Lena’s phone, actually, but Lena handed it to me without a word. It was a text from a mom named Leigh Gant, whose daughter was in Josie’s class.

“Is Josie’s grandma here? The one who sews? Please tell her it’s an emergency.”

I was out of my seat before I’d finished reading it.

The Hallway

The backstage area at the high school is a long cinder-block hallway behind the stage, with classrooms on one side used as dressing rooms. The Little Sugarplums were in the chemistry lab. I could hear crying before I got to the door.

There were fourteen little girls in that room, and about nine of them were in tears. The costumes had been taken out of their bags for the first time since dress rehearsal, and in the heat of a crowded room full of excited children, the glue and staples had given up completely.

Tutus were hanging off waists by a thread. Bows were on the floor. One girl’s leotard had split straight down the side seam, because it had never been sewn, only serged once with thread that came apart when you pulled it. Two girls had costumes so small they couldn’t get their arms in. Josie was standing in the corner holding the top of her leotard up with both hands.

“Grandma,” she said, and her chin wobbled.

Then a voice behind me said, “Excuse me. Parents aren’t allowed backstage.”

Gianna

I turned around.

Gianna Lark was standing in the doorway in her black jacket with a headset around her neck and a clipboard pressed to her chest. Her ponytail was still perfect, but her face had gone blotchy, and she had the look of a person who had been holding a disaster together with both hands for an hour and was about to drop it.

“I’m sorry,” she said. “I really need you to go back to your seat. We’re handling it.”

“How?” I said.

“What?”

“How are you handling it? What’s your plan?”

She opened her mouth. Closed it. Behind her, Kenzie Holt, her assistant, a skinny girl of about twenty in a matching jacket, was holding a roll of masking tape and looking at me like I might be a lifeboat.

“We called Glitter Line,” Gianna said. “Nobody’s answering. It’s Saturday.”

“So nobody’s coming.”

“We have tape,” Kenzie said, holding it up.

Gianna shot her a look.

I held up Josie’s costume, the side seam open, the tutu hanging by a single strand of thread.

“This isn’t sewn,” I said. “Look. It’s stapled. The seams were serged once with no straight stitch behind it. The tutu was gathered with a glue gun. This is a party costume, Gianna. It’s built to be worn once for a photograph. It’s not built for an eight-year-old to do a jeté in.”

She looked at the costume in my hands. I watched her see it, really see it, for the first time.

“How long until they’re on?” I asked.

She checked her clipboard. Her hand was shaking. “Two hours. Maybe a little less. They’re number fourteen.”

“How many costumes?”

“Fourteen girls. Fourteen costumes. Two sizes wrong.”

I took a breath. Not a big one. Just enough.

“I have a kit in my car,” I said. “I’ll need a table, the best light in this building, and four moms who can thread a needle. And I’ll need you to stop telling me I’m not allowed back here.”

There was a long silence in that chemistry lab. Fourteen little girls looked at Gianna. So did Kenzie. So did I.

Gianna looked at me. She looked at the costume. She looked at the clock on the wall.

“Okay,” she said very quietly. “Okay. Please.”

The Chemistry Lab

I don’t want to make it sound like magic. It wasn’t magic. It was work, the same kind of work I did for thirty-eight years. You look at the problem, you sort it, you assign it, you go.

Gideon ran to the car and brought back my red tackle box. Lena found an extension cord and a desk lamp in the science teacher’s closet. Leigh Gant and three other moms rolled up their sleeves. One of them had never sewn a stitch in her life. I put her on safety pins and she was magnificent.

I lined the costumes up on the black lab tables in order of how bad they were. That’s what you do. Worst first, then work your way down, so you never run out of time on the hard ones.

The two split leotards I sewed myself, by hand, a tight backstitch up each side seam. Eleven minutes each. The tutus I took off their glued waistbands and stitched to the leotards with a running stitch, then a whipstitch over it so they’d hold through any spin. Leigh did the bows, and I showed her how to tack them at four points instead of one.

The too-big costumes I took in at the side seams and tacked the straps. Josie’s took me fourteen minutes. I know because she watched the clock the whole time.

The too-small ones were harder. You can’t make fabric that doesn’t exist. But a tutu has extra tulle, and these were overstuffed, so I cut a panel from each skirt, opened the side seam of the leotard, and set in a little gusset of pink tulle under each arm. From the audience, nobody would ever see it. Up close it looked like a design choice.

Gianna stood at the end of the lab tables for most of it, saying nothing, holding a cup of water she never drank. Kenzie kept time. At one point she said, “Forty minutes left,” and the mom on safety pins said a word I won’t repeat, and fourteen little girls gasped and then laughed so hard one of them got hiccups.

The Office

Around the hour mark, I needed a better pair of scissors than the little ones in my kit. Kenzie said there were good ones in the studio bag, which Gianna kept in a classroom down the hall she was using as her office for the day.

I went to get them. The room was small, with a desk covered in programs and water bottles and a framed photograph propped against the wall, the kind of thing a person brings to a recital for good luck.

It was a little girl, about eight, in a long white nightgown with a lace collar and a blue satin ribbon tied at the throat. She was on a stage in front of a painted Christmas tree. Her hair was in ringlets, and she was holding a wooden nutcracker in both arms.

I knew that collar. I would have known it anywhere. I tatted that lace by hand on a train to my sister’s house in the winter of 2004. Every Clara at the Lyric wore it for nine years after that.

I knew that ribbon, too.

I picked up the scissors and went back to the chemistry lab. I didn’t say a thing. There wasn’t time.

Curtain

The Little Sugarplums went on at four eleven. I watched from the wings, which is where I’ve watched almost every show of my life.

Fourteen little girls in pink sequins did “Cotton Candy” in a perfect, slightly wobbly line. Nobody’s tutu fell off. Nobody’s bow came loose. Josie did a turn that was not in the choreography and nobody minded. When they curtsied, one of the moms in the wings started crying, and then Kenzie started crying, and I had to pretend I had something in my eye.

Gianna was standing beside me. She hadn’t said anything for two hours.

When the curtain closed, she turned to me and said, very quietly, “Where did you learn to do that?”

“The Grand Lyric,” I said. “Thirty-two years in wardrobe. I ran the shop.”

She stared at me.

“The Lyric,” she said. “Downtown?”

“Yes.”

Her face did something then. Something slow and complicated.

“I was Clara,” she said. “In The Nutcracker there. In 2005. I was eight.”

“I know,” I said. “I saw the picture in your office.”

She put her hand over her mouth.

“There was a costume lady,” she said through her fingers. “She did my fittings. They gave me a pink ribbon for my nightgown and it itched my neck and I cried, and she took it off and let me pick a different one out of a big box of ribbons. I picked blue.”

“You picked blue,” I said, “and then you asked if you could keep it after the last show, and I said only if you promised to keep dancing.”

Gianna Lark started crying right there in the wings of a high school auditorium, with her headset still around her neck and three more numbers in the show.

“That was you,” she said. “That was you, and I told you we use professionals.”

“You did,” I said.

“I am so sorry.”

“I know,” I said. “Go do your job. You’ve got a show to finish.”

The Invoice

After the show, in the lobby, Gianna found me by the carnations. She’d fixed her face and redone her ponytail, but her eyes were still red.

“I want to hire you,” she said. “For the fall show and the spring recital. Costume supervisor. I’ll pay you, of course. I don’t know what the rate is for, I mean, for someone like you.”

“I’ll send you my rate,” I said.

She blinked. I think she expected me to say I’d do it for free, for the girls, out of the goodness of my heart. And I might have, once. But a young woman had stood in front of a room full of mothers and told me I wasn’t a professional. I thought she ought to learn what a professional costs.

I sent the invoice Monday morning. It was my old Lyric rate, adjusted for five years. It was not small.

She paid it Tuesday. In full. With a handwritten note that said, “Worth every penny. Thank you for keeping your promise. I kept mine.”

Josie’s Question

In the car on the way home from the recital, Josie fell asleep against the window with her carnations in her lap and her tutu still on, every stitch of it holding.

Right before she drifted off, she said, “Grandma. Was that the time?”

“What time, honey?”

“The time to tell her about the theater.”

I looked at her in the rearview mirror. Her bun was coming loose and there was glitter on her cheek.

“Yes,” I said. “That was the time.”

“I’m glad you waited,” she said, and fell asleep.

I’m not sure I agree with her. I think there’s something to be said for speaking up sooner. But I think there’s also something to be said for letting a person show you who they are, and then showing them who you are, with a needle in your hand and fourteen costumes finished on the table.

The red tackle box is back in my trunk. Lena doesn’t tease me about it anymore.

And this fall, in the costume closet at the Lark Dance Academy, there’s a big cardboard box of satin ribbons in every color I could find. Gianna asked for it. She said every girl should get to pick.

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