Off The Record
“Stick To Your Little Online Shop,” My Sister Mocked Me—the Next Morning, Her Banker Called
My sister raised her fourth glass of wine at our parents’ dinner table, laughed, and told me to stick to my little online shop. My mother toasted her billion-dollar IPO and forgot she has two daughters. I said nothing and ate my salmon. The next morning at 7:40, the lead banker on that offering called my cell phone and said, “Ms. Chin, without your two hundred million dollar stake and your signature, your sister’s deal cannot move forward.”
The salmon was overdone and I didn’t say a word about it.
My mother had spent three hours in that spotless kitchen in Los Altos, and criticizing her cooking would have been pouring gasoline on something already burning across the table.
Rachel was sitting under the brass chandelier with her fourth glass of wine in one hand. The other hand cut through the air while she described the public offering her company had coming.
“The valuation is genuinely insane,” she said. “Eight hundred million floor. We could break a billion if the demand holds through the roadshow.”
My father leaned in like she was reading a proclamation.
“Goldman’s leading it,” Rachel went on. “Morgan Stanley practically begged to get in the syndicate. This is the kind of deal that defines a career.”
“We’re so proud of you, sweetheart,” my father said.
Robert Chin has looked at Rachel that way her entire life. Firstborn. Golden child. The daughter who took every approved path and collected every credential the family understood.
Stanford MBA. Five years at Bain. Founder and CEO of a fintech company with three hundred people on the payroll.
Rachel knew precisely how much our parents admired her.
She also knew precisely how little they understood me, and she had never once been able to leave that alone.
The First Thing She Said to Me That Night
“It really is impressive,” I said. “You’ve worked for it.”
Rachel turned toward me slowly. Something cold went through her face before the smile arrived.
“Thanks, Maya. I’m sure you followed about ten percent of that, but I appreciate the effort.”
I took a sip of water.
“Rachel. Don’t be rude,” my mother said.
She was smiling when she said it.
Linda Chin has spent thirty-four years perfecting the art of correcting one daughter while entirely supporting her. The words sound protective. The eyes stay amused.
Rachel refilled her glass and a ribbon of red went onto the white tablecloth. Nobody moved to blot it.
“I’m not being rude, Mom. I’m being realistic. Maya runs a cute little online shop. She sells jewelry, candles, whatever.”
“Independent artisan goods,” I said. “Jewelry, ceramics, textiles, prints, small-batch furniture. It’s a curated marketplace.”
Rachel laughed once.
“So Etsy with pretensions.”
And my parents chuckled.
That’s the part I want people to understand. It wasn’t loud. It was affectionate, even. It landed harder than anything anybody shouted at me in my entire childhood.
What My Family Believed About My Life
For six years they’d believed the version of me that was easiest for them to hold.
A rent-controlled apartment in a building I’d lived in since 2016. A 2014 Subaru with a hundred and forty thousand miles on it. A website. No husband, no kids, no title anybody could repeat to a friend.
Every single one of those things is true.
I had simply never corrected the conclusions they drew from them.
I could have ended that dinner with one sentence. I could have ended it in about 2021.
Instead I chewed slowly and let it keep going, because something in me had already decided that night was going to be worth more than the argument.
“I’m happy with what I do,” I said.
Rachel leaned toward me. The wine had brightened her eyes but it hadn’t created what was in them. It had just made her careless about hiding it.
“That’s the problem,” she said. “You’re too comfortable.”
The room went still.
“You’re thirty-four, Maya. When are you going to want more than getting by?”
“I’m not getting by.”
“Really?”
She looked at my blouse. Then at the watch on my wrist, which cost sixty dollars and which I like.
“You’re in a rent-controlled one-bedroom. You drive a ten-year-old Subaru. Your site probably clears — what, fifty thousand a year? A hundred if you’re having a great one?”
“Something like that,” I said.
Which is technically accurate if you ignore several zeros.
The Word She Used, and What My Father Said After It
Rachel smiled like I’d handed her the closing argument.
“Exactly. My personal stake could be worth three hundred million after this prices. And you’re proud because your little shop might clear six figures.”
She tipped her head with a pity so theatrical it was almost impressive.
“It’s sad. We had the same parents, the same schools, the same everything. I chose to build something significant. You chose small.”
“I chose what I wanted.”
“Happiness doesn’t build wealth,” my father said.
That voice. The one he used my entire childhood to signal that a discussion had concluded.
“Rachel works sixteen-hour days. She’s made sacrifices. That’s the difference between people who are successful and people who are merely comfortable.”
Rachel was successful.
I was comfortable.
Rachel had built something real.
I was playing at business.
I sat there with a fork in my hand and let all of it land, one plate at a time.
The Toast Where My Mother Forgot She Has Two Daughters
“Four weeks out,” Rachel said. “We’re pricing at forty-two a share. Roadshow starts in fourteen days — New York, Boston, back here. Seven years of eighty-hour weeks come down to that.”
My mother raised her glass.
“We should toast.”
And she looked directly at Rachel.
“To our daughter and her incredible success.”
Our daughter. Singular.
Four glasses came up over that table. I lifted mine and touched it to theirs and watched my sister accept it with the expression of somebody receiving something she’d been owed.
I want to be clear that my mother did not mean anything cruel by it. That’s the part that stings. She wasn’t taking a shot at me.
She simply, in that moment, was not thinking about me at all.
The Job She Offered Me at the Table
After the toast, Rachel leaned back and studied me like she was about to do me a favor.
“You know what you should actually do?”
“What.”
“Sell the shop.”
My mother’s hand paused over her plate.
“Take whatever somebody’ll give you for the domain and the customer list. Then get a real job.”
“A real job.”
“I could help you.”
Her tone shifted into something almost warm, which was worse.
“Once Apex is public we’re building out marketing significantly. I could probably get you an entry-level spot. Sixty to start, maybe sixty-five. It’s not glamorous but you’d have benefits and an actual path.”
“That’s a wonderful idea,” my mother said. Instantly.
“Rachel is offering you something serious, Maya,” my father said.
I folded my napkin and set it beside my plate.
“An entry-level marketing position.”
“Everybody starts somewhere,” Rachel said. “You’d have to get used to structure, obviously. Nine to six, in the office. Reporting to a manager. Metrics, deadlines.”
She smiled.
“Might teach you some discipline.”
What She Said When My Mother Called It Harsh
That sentence sat there in the middle of the table and nobody at it — not one of the three people who raised me — moved to pick it up.
“I appreciate the offer,” I said.
“Think about it seriously,” my father said. “Don’t let pride keep you out of something big.”
“Pride’s exactly the problem,” Rachel said. “Maya knows the shop isn’t impressive. Admitting it would mean admitting she failed.”
My mother made a small noise.
“That’s a little harsh, honey.”
“Somebody has to be honest with her.”
Rachel reached for the bottle again.
“She’s been playing businesswoman for six years. What does she have? A website. Some inventory. A few thousand customers.”
She looked right at me.
“That’s not a company. That’s a hobby that makes a little money.”
“I have something to show for it,” I said.
“What, the website?” She laughed. “I have three hundred employees. Forty million in annual revenue. Patented technology. Sequoia and Andreessen on my cap table. Our platform processes billions in transaction volume.”
She spread both hands.
“What do you have?”
Why I Didn’t Answer Her
I could have.
I could have said it in eleven words and watched that table come apart.
And I want to be honest about why I didn’t, because it wasn’t nobility and it wasn’t restraint.
It was that the room had just given me something considerably more valuable than their approval.
It had shown me exactly how all three of them behave when they believe I have nothing they want.
You only get to see that once. The moment you correct it, it’s gone forever and you can never verify it again.
“I have a business I’m proud of,” I said.
“Pride doesn’t pay bills,” Rachel said. “Pride doesn’t build a legacy. Taking a company public builds a legacy. Your shop is going to be a footnote.”
My mother reached across and patted my hand.
“We just want you to have security, sweetheart. Rachel will never have to worry about money again in her life. We worry about you. What happens when the shop fails?”
My father picked it up.
“You don’t have a family of your own. You don’t have a retirement plan that we know of. At some point there has to be stability.”
“So take the job,” Rachel said. “Start at the bottom. Five years, maybe you’re a manager. Ten, maybe a director.”
The Four Questions I Asked Before I Left
I finished the last of the salmon and set my fork across the plate.
Then I looked at my sister.
“Can I ask you something?”
Her smile came down about a quarter inch.
“Sure.”
“The offering’s four weeks from today?”
“Yes.”
“And Goldman is lead-left?”
A line appeared between her eyebrows.
“…Yes.”
“Who else is on the cover?”
Rachel stared at me.
“Morgan Stanley and JPMorgan. Why?”
“Just curious.”
“How do you even know what lead-left means?”
My father set down his glass. My mother’s hand stopped moving over her plate.
For the first time all evening, my sister did not look amused.
I gave her a small, perfectly calm smile.
“I know a few things about real business.”
And I got up and thanked my mother for dinner and drove home in the Subaru.
What I Actually Do, Which None of Them Ever Asked About
Here’s what I have never once said at that dinner table.
The marketplace is real. It’s called Common Thread. I started it in 2019 out of that same apartment with eleven sellers and a Shopify template.
Last year it did four hundred and twelve million dollars in gross merchandise volume across about nineteen thousand independent makers in forty-one states. We take a lower cut than anybody in the category, which is why they came and why they stayed.
I have sixty-eight employees, all remote, all salaried, all with equity. I’ve never taken a dollar of venture capital. Not one. Three firms have tried and I said no three times, and the third time I said it into a phone standing in a Trader Joe’s parking lot.
That’s the part my sister would have understood if she’d ever asked me a single question about my work in six years. No VC means no board, no preferred stack, no liquidation preference sitting above me.
It means I own it.
And in 2022, when a fintech company called Apex Financial was raising a Series B and had a gap in the round with nine days to close, an investor I’d known since 2019 asked whether I’d take the allocation.
I looked at the deck. I liked the underlying business. I did not particularly like the CEO, but I have never in my life confused those two things.
I wrote a check for eleven million dollars into that round through an LLC named Larkspur Holdings, which is my grandmother’s favorite flower and which appears nowhere in any public document with my name attached to it.
At the price they were talking about at that dinner table, that stake is worth a little over two hundred million dollars.
And under the terms of that round, which my sister signed, holders above a certain threshold have to execute a consent and a lockup agreement before the offering can proceed.
My sister did not know who Larkspur was. She had never asked. It came in through a syndicate lead and she took the money and never once looked at the bottom of her own cap table.
The Phone Call at 7:40 the Next Morning
I was standing at my counter with coffee when my phone rang. Unfamiliar number, 212 area code.
“Ms. Chin? This is David Rhee at Goldman. I’m sorry to call this early. Do you have a few minutes?”
“I do.”
“I’m reaching out regarding the Apex offering. We’re finalizing the shareholder consents package and Larkspur Holdings is the one outstanding item. Frankly, it’s the largest single holder outside the founder and the two lead funds.”
“I’m aware.”
There was a small pause, the sound of a man recalibrating.
“We’d need your signature on the consent and the one-eighty lockup. Without it we don’t have the vote to proceed, and I’ll be candid — we can’t price.”
I looked out my window at a parking lot.
“Mr. Rhee. Does the CEO know who Larkspur is?”
Another pause. Longer.
“…I don’t believe she does, no. The registry lists the entity. My understanding is that the relationship was managed through Kestrel.”
“You should probably tell her.”
“Ms. Chin, is there an issue with the transaction? Because if there’s a concern about the business, I’d want to—”
“There’s no issue with the business,” I said. “I’ve held it for three years and I think it’s a good company. I’ll sign.”
I could hear him exhale.
“That’s — thank you. That’s a relief.”
“But you should tell her who’s signing. Today. Before the roadshow. It’s not a thing you want her finding out from a filing.”
The Call I Got Ninety Minutes Later
Rachel called at 9:12.
I let it go to voicemail. Then I made another cup of coffee and called her back.
“Maya.”
Her voice was doing something I had never heard it do.
“Hi.”
“Larkspur is you.”
“It is.”
There was a long stretch of nothing on that line.
“Since when?”
“June of 2022. Your Series B was nine days from closing and it was three point five million short. I took the whole gap plus a little.”
“Eleven million dollars.”
“Eleven point two.”
“You wrote a check for eleven point two million dollars into my company and you didn’t tell me.”
“I didn’t tell anybody. It’s how I invest. There are fourteen other positions and none of them know either.”
I could hear her breathing.
“Where does an online craft store get eleven million dollars, Maya?”
And I want to be honest about this — that question is the reason I’ve never told them anything. Not the money. The reflexive assumption that there has to be some explanation other than she built it.
“Common Thread did four hundred and twelve million in GMV last year,” I said. “I’ve never raised outside capital. I own a hundred percent of it. That’s where.”
Silence.
“Four hundred—”
“Twelve. Million. Last year. This year will be higher.”
“That’s not — Maya, that’s not possible. You drive a Subaru.“
“I like the Subaru. It’s paid for and it starts every morning.”
What She Asked Me Next, Which Told Me Everything
There was a long pause and I could hear her thinking, and I knew exactly what was coming because I’ve known this woman my whole life.
“Okay. Okay. Are you going to sign?”
Not why didn’t you tell me. Not I said terrible things to you last night. Not how did you build that.
Are you going to sign.
“I already told David I would.”
I heard her sit down.
“You did?”
“This morning. Before you called.”
“Before I—” Her voice cracked in a way I hadn’t heard since she was about nineteen. “Maya, last night I—”
“I know what you did last night.”
“I was drunk.”
“You were drunk at the volume. You weren’t drunk at the content. You’ve been saying that to me since 2019, you’ve just been quieter about it.”
She didn’t argue, which is the closest thing to an admission I’ve ever gotten out of her.
“Why are you signing?”
“Because it’s a good company and I’m not going to blow up three hundred people’s equity to win an argument with my sister,” I said. “Those employees didn’t say anything to me at that table.”
The Thing I Did Ask For
“I do want one thing.”
“Anything.”
Which is a sentence that tells you a great deal about a person’s position.
“You’re going to tell Mom and Dad yourself. Before the roadshow. Not me. You.”
“Tell them what?”
“All of it. What Larkspur is. What I built. What you said at that table and what they let sit there.”
She was quiet a long time.
“Maya, that’s—”
“That’s the ask. Sign or don’t. It doesn’t change my signature. But that’s what I want from you.”
“Why does it have to be me?”
“Because if I tell them, it’s a woman defending herself. If you tell them, it’s the truth.”
What Happened at Their House Nine Days Later
She did it. I’ll give her that.
She drove down to Los Altos on a Sunday and sat at that same dining room table and told our parents that the largest outside holder in her company — the one whose signature the entire offering depended on — was the daughter they’d been pitying over overcooked salmon.
My mother called me at ten that night crying.
“Sweetheart, why didn’t you ever tell us?”
And I sat on my couch and thought about how to answer that honestly.
“Because I wanted to know if it mattered,” I said finally.
“If what mattered?”
“Whether you’d be proud of me for the thing I actually am, or whether you needed a number first.”
She didn’t have an answer. To her credit, she didn’t reach for one.
My father did not call. Not that week. He called eleven days later and talked about the Warriors for four minutes and then said, very quickly, “Your mother tells me the marketplace is doing quite well.”
“It is.”
“That’s — good. That’s good, Maya.”
That is, and I want to be accurate, the single most emotionally forthcoming thing that man has said to me since I was twelve.
What the Offering Did, and What It Didn’t Fix
Apex priced at thirty-eight, not forty-two. It closed the first day at forty-four and change and then did what these things do, which is drift for six months while everybody stops answering their phones.
Rachel’s stake is worth substantially less than three hundred million and substantially more than any human being needs.
Mine did fine. I sold about a third at lockup expiration and left the rest, because I still think it’s a good company.
The relationship is not fixed. I want to be clear about that, because these stories always want to end with a hug.
Rachel and I talk maybe every six weeks now, and it’s better than it was, and it’s not warm. She has apologized exactly once, in a text message, which is not nothing coming from her.
What changed isn’t that she respects me now. It’s that she can’t say those things anymore, and I’ve come to understand those are different achievements and only one of them was ever available.
Why I Still Drive the Subaru
I’m thirty-five now. Common Thread did five hundred and sixty million in volume last year across twenty-three thousand makers.
I still live in the same apartment. I have thought about moving twice and both times realized I only wanted to move so that a specific set of people would understand something, which is the worst possible reason to buy a house.
I still drive that Subaru. It’s got a hundred and sixty-one thousand miles on it now and the passenger window is slow.
I bought my grandmother a house in Fremont. She’s the only person in my family who ever asked me a real question about my work — in 2020, at eighty-one years old, she asked me how many people were selling on the site and then asked me their names, and I told her nine of them, and she remembered four of those names the following Christmas.
She’s the reason it’s called Larkspur.
And here’s what I’ve landed on, two years out.
I spent about a decade believing that if I ever got big enough, they’d finally see me correctly. That there was a number that would do it. That’s the thing that keeps quiet people quiet — not modesty, but the belief that the proof is coming and that it’ll land.
It doesn’t land. Not the way you think.
They know now. All three of them know exactly what I built and roughly what it’s worth, and my mother is proud of me in a way that is real and about eight years late, and my father still doesn’t have language for it, and my sister is polite.
What I actually got out of that dinner wasn’t vindication.
It was watching three people I love tell me, without knowing they were doing it, precisely what they thought of me when they believed I had nothing.
That’s expensive information. Most people never get it.
I’d rather have it than the toast.
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