Off The Record

My MIL’s Biggest Mistake Was Changing The Locks And Kicking Me And My Kids Out When My Husband Passed Away

Published on March 7, 2025

My husband’s death broke me. However, my mother-in-law made things worse two days after his death. She changed the locks, evicted my children and myself, and left us without a place to live. Though she was unaware that she was committing the biggest mistake of her life, she believed she had won.

I wasn’t gullible about Ryan’s mother when I married him two years ago. Margaret never bothered to conceal her contempt for me; whenever I walked into a room, her eyes would always narrow a little, as though I had brought a foul odor with me.

Ryan would squeeze my hand beneath the dining table and whisper, “She’ll come around, Cat,” while his mother questioned him—and him alone—about his day in a direct manner.

However, she never showed up. Not to me, and definitely not to my children from my former marriage, Liam (7) and Emma (5).

I heard her conversing with her buddy in the kitchen over a Sunday meal at her place.

She muttered, “The children aren’t even his,” not realizing that I was coming with empty plates. “She trapped him with her ready-made family. Classic gold-digger move.”

Plates shook in my hands as I froze in the corridor.

I was crying when I confronted Ryan that evening. “Your mother thinks I married you for money. She doesn’t even see Emma and Liam as your family.”

A muscle in Ryan’s face worked to tighten his jaw. “I’ll talk to her. I promise this stops now.”

His heartbeat was steady against my ear as he drew me in. “You and those kids are my world, Cat. Nothing and no one will come between us. Not even my mother.”

Ryan kept his promise. He purchased a lovely house for us in a community with tree-lined streets and nice schools, far enough away from Margaret that we didn’t have to visit her unless we so desired.

Under Ryan’s tutelage, Emma and Liam flourished. Since their biological father left when Liam was still in diapers, he has never attempted to take his place. Rather, he developed his own bond with them, based on bedtime stories, Saturday morning pancakes, and pillow forts.

I remarked, “You’re doing the tucking in tonight,” as I leaned against Emma’s room’s doorframe and observed Ryan carefully placing her stuffed animals around her.

“Mr. Whiskers always goes on the left,” Emma said gravely.

Ryan nodded gravely. “Of course,” he said. “He’s the guardian of the left side of the bed. Very important position.”

Ryan later put his arm over my shoulders and sat down with me on the couch after both children had fallen asleep.

“I spoke with Mom today,” he muttered.

I stiffened. “And?”

His tone was regretful but firm: “I told her she either respects my family — all of my family — or she doesn’t see me at all.” “I think she got the message.”

My head was resting on his shoulder. “I hate that you had to do that.”

He corrected me, saying, “I chose to. There’s a difference.”

Margaret remained at a distance for some time. She managed to be polite to me, sent birthday cards to the children, and arrived at Christmas with clumsily selected presents. Although it wasn’t warm, it was bearable.

The phone call that broke everything then arrived.

My phone rang when I was cutting vegetables for supper. At the kitchen table, the children were working on their schoolwork while amicably debating who had more arithmetic issues.

A voice from out of the blue said, “Is this Ms. Catherine?”

“Yes.”

“I’m calling from the hospital downtown. Your husband has been in an accident.”

The blade clanked against the countertop. “What kind of accident?”

The silence went on forever. “A car crash. It’s serious, ma’am. You should come right away.”

The drive to the hospital is not something I recall. I don’t recall requesting that my neighbor watch the children. All I can recall is the look on the doctor’s face as he came up to me in the waiting area and how I could tell before he spoke.

“I’m very sorry. We did everything we could,” he replied.

It seemed as though my heart would cease beating. Ryan had left. The one man who had ever loved me with all his heart and treated my kids like his own… disappeared.

My voice sounded distant, as if it were someone else’s. “Can I see him?”

With a nod, the doctor ushered me along an apparently endless hallway.

With the exception of the silence, Ryan appeared content, nearly sleeping. His chest did not rise and fall. No eyelids fluttering. Nothing but silence.

I put my hand on his. It was chilly.

I said, “You promised,” as tears fell upon our clasped hands. “You promised you wouldn’t leave us.”

The funeral was a haze of whispered condolences and black clothing. Margaret was seated across from me and the children in the front row. She didn’t cry. She embraced people with stiff dignity when they came up to her.

Every time someone new came around, Emma would cling to my hand and squeeze it with her tiny fingers. Beside me, Liam stood up, making a concerted effort to be the head of the household.

Margaret came up to us after the service. Her posture was tight, and her eyes were dry with a crimson ring.

Without introducing herself, she continued, “This is your fault,” in a low voice that was piercing.

I looked at her, unable to understand. “Excuse me?”

“My son is dead because of you. If he hadn’t been rushing home to you and those children, he’d still be alive.”

I went cold. According to the authorities, Ryan’s accident occurred on a section of roadway that is not close to our home.

I yelled, frightened, “We are his family,” and pointed to the children. “And he loved us.”

Margaret’s mouth became thinner. “You trapped him. You know it, and I know it.”

She left before I could reply, leaving me standing there speechless, her allegation lingering between us like poison.

Liam pulled at my sleeve and said, “Mom?” “What did Grandma Margaret mean? Was it our fault Daddy died?”

I swiftly dropped to my knees and grasped his tiny face. “No, sweetheart. Absolutely not. What happened to Daddy was a terrible accident, and it wasn’t anyone’s fault. Grandma Margaret is just very sad and saying things she doesn’t mean.”

Even though my heart was aching again, I faked a grin. “Let’s go home.”

I took the kids to purchase ice cream two days after the funeral in the hopes that the little pleasure would help our bereaved routine return to normal. I was so shocked when we got back that I almost crashed the car.

Like dumped rubbish waiting to be picked up, our possessions were stacked in black trash bags on the curb. One bag was overflowing with Emma’s favorite blanket, its pink edge billowing in the wind.

Her voice faltered, “Mom?” “Why is my blankie outside?”

I hurried to the front door after parking carelessly. My key was inoperable. Someone had replaced the lock.

I rapped my fist against the wood after knocking. “Hello? Hello!”

The door opened, and Margaret appeared as though she belonged there, dressed in a dapper linen pantsuit.

She remarked, leaning against the doorframe, “Oh, you’re back,” “I thought you’d take the hint. This house belongs to me now. You and your little brats need to find somewhere else to go.”

My body went chilly, then heated up with anger. “Margaret, this is my home.”

She laughed. “It was my son’s house. And now that he’s gone, you have no right to it.”

Behind me, Emma started to cry. Liam stepped forward, placing his petite frame in front of his sister in a protective manner.

Saying, “You can’t do this,” I trembled. “This is illegal. This is our home.”

“Sue me,” Margaret said, grinning icily. “Oh wait, you can’t afford to, can you? Not without my son’s money.”

She took a step back and started to shut the door. “I’ve changed the locks, as you’ve noticed. Don’t come back.”

In front of me, the door shut. Emma’s screams got louder behind me.

Liam asked, attempting to sound brave despite his little voice, “Where are we going to sleep?”

I looked at my kids, whose faces were white with dread and bewilderment. I said, “We’ll figure it out,” but I didn’t know how.

We slept in my car that night while it was parked in a lot. I leaned back as far as I could in the front seat. With the few blankets I retrieved from the bags on the curb, the children huddled together in the rear.

“It’ll be like camping,” I said to them, trying to sound happy.

Emma was so tired from sobbing that she fell asleep soon. However, Liam remained awake, the lights in the parking lot reflected in his eyes.

A whisper, “Dad wouldn’t let this happen,” he said.

I squeezed his hand with my back. “You’re right. And neither will I.”

I promised the children that I would have everything worked out by the time they were picked up at school the following morning. I then sobbed uncontrollably while sitting in my car.

I contacted Robert, Ryan’s attorney, as soon as I was able to breathe again. I could hardly hold the phone because my hands were shaking so much.

“Catherine,” was his kind response. “I was going to call you next week. How are you holding up?”

“Not well. Margaret changed the locks on our house. She threw our stuff out. We slept in my car last night.”

Then there was silence: “She did WHAT?”

I said it again, threatening to cry.

Robert responded, “That’s illegal,” his tone sharpening. He halted, saying, “Completely illegal. Does she think —” “Did Ryan leave a will? Is that what you’re calling about?”

“Yes,” I muttered. “Please tell me he did.”

“He did. In fact, I was scheduled to bring it to you next week.” He stopped. “Why don’t you come to my office right now?”

An hour later, Robert was sliding a document across his desk as I sat across from him.

“Ryan came to see me about six months ago,” he said. “He was worried about exactly this scenario.”

A new wave of anguish washed over me as I gazed down at the will and saw Ryan’s well-known signature at the bottom.

“He left everything to you, Catherine,” Robert murmured softly. “The house, his savings, his investments. Everything.”

I didn’t dare hope, so I looked up. “Everything?”

Robert gave a nod. He tapped a phrase on the second page and said, “Well, almost. He did leave his mother $200,000… but with a condition.” “If she ever tried to evict you, take the house, or interfere with your rights to his inheritance, she would forfeit that money.”

I said, “And where would it go?”

Robert grinned glumly. “To you and the children.”

I felt something other than sadness for the first time in days. Despite its modest size, it was present. A glimmer of hope and justice.

I said, “What do we do now?”

Robert said, “We take your house back now,” as he reached for his phone.

The following day was designated for the emergency court hearing. I slept better this time, but I still spent another night in the van with the kids.

At breakfast the following morning, I told Emma and Liam, “I need to tell you something important,” while they were eating fast food. “We’re going to get our house back today.”

Then Emma’s eyes brightened. “Really?” “With my room and everything?”

“Everything,” I assured you.

Liam inquired, “Is Grandma Margaret going to be in trouble?”

After some hesitation, I chose to be honest. “Yes, she is. What she did was wrong, and there are consequences for that.”

Liam gave a solemn nod. “Dad always said we have to take responsibility for our actions.”

My heart clenched. “He did say that, didn’t he?”

A severe woman with reading glasses balanced on the tip of her nose was the judge. She heard both of us: me softly telling how we had been left homeless, and Margaret spluttering angrily about family rights.

“Ms. Margaret,” the court concluded, “you had no legal right to change the locks or remove the rightful owners from their property. I’m issuing an immediate order for you to vacate the premises and return all keys to Ms. Catherine by end of day.”

Margaret’s expression twisted. “But it’s my son’s house!”

The judge explained, “Which he legally left to his wife,” “This court doesn’t recognize ‘but I’m his mother’ as a valid legal argument, Ms. Margaret.”

Margaret rushed past me as we left the courthouse, avoiding eye contact.

Hersing, “This isn’t over,”

My shoulder was touched by Robert. “Actually, it is. And there’s one more thing she doesn’t know yet.”

I had fresh keys to my residence by dusk. To ensure Margaret couldn’t attempt another prank, Robert had dispatched a locksmith in advance.

The children excitedly jumped out of the car as soon as we pulled into the driveway, but they stopped short at what they saw. The same black trash bags that Margaret had used for our items were stacked on the curb.

Saying in a whisper, “Mom,” “did you do that?”

Before I could respond, a car behind us screeched to a stop, and I smiled. Margaret’s face was crimson with anger as she stormed out.

She demanded, making wild gestures at her possessions, “What is the meaning of this?”

I moved to separate her from the kids. “You broke into my home and illegally evicted me and my kids. Now, it’s your turn to leave.”

She yelled, “You can’t do this!”

My new keys were raised. “Oh, but I can. This house belongs to me and my children now. Ryan made sure of that.”

She took her phone out. “I’m calling the police.”

I grinned. “Go ahead.”

Both sides were heard by the police when they came. Then they looked to Margaret, who was clearly shocked.

One of the officers said, “Ma’am, it is illegal to change locks without an eviction notice.” “Breaking and entering, too. And unlawful eviction.”

But Margaret persisted, “But it’s my son’s house!”

“Not according to the will,” said the officer. “We’re going to have to ask you to come with us.”

“You turned my son against me. You and those children who aren’t even his!” Margaret glared at me as they escorted her to the police car.

I took a step toward her and lowered my voice to her level. “No, Margaret. You did that all on your own. And now you’ve lost everything… including the $200,000 Ryan left you.”

Her expression slackened. “What?”

“It’s in the will,” I clarified. “The money was yours unless you tried to take the house from us. Guess where it goes now?”

Her face lit up with the knowledge as the officer shut the car door.

For the first time since the burial, we slept in our own beds that night. Making sure Mr. Whiskers was positioned correctly on the left side of the bed, I tucked Emma in.

She asked drowsily, “Mom?” “Is Grandma Margaret going to jail?”

Her hair was brushed back by me. “I don’t know, sweetie. But she can’t hurt us anymore.”

Liam’s eyes were open, but he was already under the blankets.

I sat on the edge of his bed and he said, “You were really brave today, Mom,”

I grinned. “I learned it from you guys.”

I strolled into Ryan’s office after the kids had gone to sleep. His presence could be seen in the coffee mug remained on the desk, the family portrait displayed where he could view it while working, and the leather chair that had been molded to fit his figure.

I traced his face with my finger as I picked up the picture.

“You knew,” I said in a whisper. “You knew she might try something like this.”

I could just hear his response in the quiet: “Of course I did. That’s why I made sure you and the kids would be taken care of.”

Robert later informed me that Margaret’s battle against the allegations had cost her everything. The $200,000 that was now mine and my kids’ was only the start. Her demise was rounded off by legal bills, a brief jail sentence for breaking and entering, and the social disgrace in her country club circles.

I didn’t enjoy destroying her. However, I did find solace in the fact that Ryan had acted in our defense in his final act. from the harshness of fate, from her, and from uncertainty.

The universe manages to keep everything in balance. Ryan was aware of that. Ultimately, Margaret did as well.