Anything that is toxic is considered dangerous (read lethal) for human beings. Be it chemicals, flora and fauna, or even other human beings. You should know that there exist toxic people who poison our soul.
They are the types of people who stop your personal growth. Jim Rohn, a famous motivational speaker and author says: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” When you think about it, this is completely right. Humans are sponges, and we suck everything since we were infants. These things don’t just change when we grow up. We continue to do so, and it forms our character.
It is highly important that you know who you are surrounded with and if there’s someone toxifying your well-being on a daily basis.
Here’s a list to recognize these people who might be slowly draining the life out of you:
1. No apologies
Toxic people do not apologize to anyone even if they committed the mistake. It is completely impossible to make them say sorry. They will escape from any responsibility and will lie to hide their faults.
2. Prove your worth
These people are such drama queens that they will make you choose between your own endeavors and their narcissistic self. If you happen to choose the former, there goes the drama switch. Don’t pay attention to it. You need to prove your worth to yourself before you do it for anyone else.
3. Projection, not reflection
Projection is a technique of psychological manipulation. They will blame you for their disorganized feelings instead of owning up to them. It could be a simple comment like, “Your attitude is lowering my spirits” or “You are too emotional”.
They are excellent manipulators. If you have been in a relationship with toxic people or are friends with them, you will surely be aware of their manipulative acts and tantrums. They do this because of some deranged sense of entitlement, lack of self-esteem, or outright selfishness.
5. True self, what is that?
They change their personality as it suits the situation. You will never be able to see their true self. They will never reveal it to you. They show affection according to their needs and when the thing is done, they will leave.
6. They ruin the occasion
If you have some good news regarding yourself, do not announce it in front of toxic people. They will find a way to ruin it for you. It is in their nature to turn everything positive into something negative.
7. The indulge in irrelevancy
They are not problem solving people; rather, they are the ones who create them. Indulging in irrelevant matters and distracting everyone from the issue at hand is something they are good at. It doesn’t matter to them as long as it doesn’t concern their own petty self.
8. At times they are meticulous
When it comes to showing displeasure, annoyance or disappointment, you can expect these toxic people to be extremely meticulous. They will be thorough in their handling of such situations because it involves you being demeaned or degraded.
9. Belittling others
How can toxic people miss an opportunity to belittle someone especially if it’s in front of ten other people? They will go on and on about how you neglected your work or how you missed something. It makes them feel powerful and in control. It gives them a false sense of superiority.
Nothing could be defined in simpler terms by a toxic person. Everything is magnified ten times its original size. Every misfortune, every happiness, every insignificant detail is blasted through the canons so that it reaches each and every individual.
If you’re being fooled by a toxic person, wake up from your stupor and see their real side. Avoid any kind of interaction with such people. You don’t need such negativity in your life.
Here are 3 books you must read if you really want to get rid of toxic people and go forth with your personal growth: